(Closed) My mom is driving me CRAZY!

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I would make a good showing of looking at other venues and then insist that this is the one I want. 

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Can you at least go with her to look at the other venues? Keep an open mind, you might really like one of them! Otherwise, you can then explain to her exactly what you love about yours that the others don’t have

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee

@LibraryBride2013: Its your mom and she is paying. Look at the other venues and if you still want to go with the one you currently love, express that to her. Its nothing wrong wih looking.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Very sweet of them to pay, although I don think its a big deal that parents are paying.. its a traditional act in many countries including mine.. Theyre paying cuz they want yout o hve the best day of yoru life not becuse they want a day to control and run.. So Definely go check it out with her– but not becasue ” Omg my mom is paying so I have to do this “– but more becasue ” shes my mom and I want her to be happy, so ill keep an open mind and check out the other venues” IF you dont like em then yes it is your wedding and you should choose what you want.

Post # 7
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@Mrsgurzakovic: I needed your remark.

Somewhere, i feel like my mom’s hooker in this wedding.

Like because my DAD is paying, but she is running the show I have to kowtow to all her wishes.

Your reason, is the ONLY reason a parent should pay.

Misuse of this guideline is not only manipulative, but mentally abusive.

 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@JoieM: (: Glad I was of some help!

Its definetly wrong but if your getting so fed up with it, then just talk to her! Over a cup of coffee– tell her how you feel..  ( If shes the type that is okay with you pouring out your heart and soul and wont get offended )- if she gets offended then tell her that you REALLY are so grateful and respectful for her helping you out and making your day possible but that you have your dream wedding that youve always wanted and wish that she could help you make that dream come true.. parents are easy to talk to sometimes if you know the right things to say ๐Ÿ˜‰ Haha

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper

Have you actually looked at a lot of them or have you just researched them online? Many times the venue will look completely different in person, and there might just be something out there you love more.

We just went to a fabulous wedding in Philly, and the food was amazing! Have you seen Tendenza yet?

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

See the way I look at it If they are paying for it they have final say on everything. Yes it is your wedding but it their money… If you want something and your mom wont budge then maybe you can pay for that yourself? Or you have to show her that your idea is the better idea!

I know it sucks but Having someone help pay for the wedding means you have to listen to them and they do have all of the input into what is paid for.

Im sorry if its not what you wanted to hear but It is the way it is…

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper

@LibraryBride2013: You’ll love it! Is it the Curtis Center? The cocktail hour is amazingingly wonderful and the food is top shelf!

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