Post # 1
So my mom and sister (who will be my MOH) came to see my venue with me last night, as my Fiance is out of town. Afterwards, we were having dessert and my mom brought up that she was hoping to sit at our head table with us. She thinks since my FI’s mom and her are both single mom’s , that they should sit at each end of our head table as the “anchors.”
Has anyone ever heard of this? I haven’t so I thought it was weird, but she seemed upset when I said ummm no. If that’s the one thing she really wants, I guess it would be okay, but I want other’s opinions on this.
Post # 3
honestly, i don’t see why you would be against this, but i’m an udiot when it comes to wedding planning. i think it would be nice.
Post # 4
I’m not against it, I guess I just hadn’t thought about it because I have never heard of this happening before.
Post # 5
I don’t think you need to include her at the head table if you don’t want to. I’ve never heard of this so I’m not totally sure where she got the idea from. That being said, if you ARE okay with it, I don’t see a problem with them being at the head table. But only if you want them there.
Post # 6
Aw! I think that is really cute! If we weren’t having a sweetheart table I would love to do that…but to be honest my Fiance probably wouldn’t!
Post # 7
I’ve never heard of this, but that doesn’t mean that it can’t be done. Do what makes you comfortable. If it’s her one and only request, it might be nice to have them up there at the very end. Is your bridal party going to be at the head table with you?
Post # 8
I dont think its a bad idea but its not traditional, usually its the bride, groom and Bridesmaid or Best Man and Groomsmen. Usually each set of parents either sit at a table together with other people or “host” their own table. But since both your mom and Future Mother-In-Law are single moms it might be a good idea?
Post # 9
I think it’d be totally fine. Usually the mother’s kick off the entrance of the bridal party when they are escorted down the aisle, so technically they could be considered part of it.
But, there are no rules! If you want them there, have them there. If you don’t, don’t. There’s nothing written in stone about what you should do!
Post # 10
@2Peas – yes we will just have 4 people in the wedding party, plus my Fiance and I so if we did include our moms, there would be 8 of us at the table.
Another thing is, what if my Future Mother-In-Law doesn’t want to sit at the headtable, but my mom does? I’m gonna have to talk to my Fiance and see what he thinks about all this haha
Post # 11
I don’t think it’s ‘normal’, but I guess it isn’t strange. Since you have a small wedding party it wouldn’t be crazy.Our wedding party plus dates are 24 so if our Mom’s wanted to sit with us also, 1/2 the wedding would be at the head table!
Post # 12
I think it makes sense then to include them in the group of 8 in the wedding party.
Post # 13
At every wedding I’ve been to, I’ve seen different head table arrangements. I don’t think any particular arrangement is “normal” anymore – it’s however you want to do it. I personally did not want a sweetheart table, so my husband and I sat at a head table with our immediate families, which worked out very well for us.
Post # 14
My mom wants to sit at the head table too. However, we have 14 there already (6 BMs and 6 GMs), and both of the mothers are still married to our fathers, so it would be a head table of 18! In your situation, I think it could work, but its just up to what you want to do.
Post # 15
I think there aren’t “rules” anymore really when it comes to this kind of thing. So I’d just suggest thinking it over and thinking about what you and your Fiance want, and make a decision that you’re comfortable with.
For what it’s worth, I think that Fiance and I will be seated with a couple of our closest friends at a regular table, as opposed to doing a head table. I actually thought about sitting with our parents and siblings, but probably won’t go that route for a number of reasons (1. His parents have a history of being quite difficult at family weddings and 2. We thought our parents might want the chance to sit with their closest friends who will be at the wedding)
Post # 16
I think it iw wonderful for your mothers to be at the head table.
Everything I have read about the head table lists the B&G and their Bridesmaid or Best Man Maid/Matron of Honor and parents. The rest of the bridal party is optional, especially since many of them have dates or husbands that end up sitting by themselves.