Post # 1
My parents got divorced last thansgiving.
My mom got in a relationship pretty quickly after but then broke up with him as well after about 6-7 months.
She has moved 5 times in the last 5 years.
Quit a nice stable job to move 3 hours away for a new job only to have the job recended- now she is working three jobs- 1 as a secretary 1 as a nanny and 1 as a waitress…
All of this happend during my wedding
She is in school again
and the forieng exchanged student she had for 6 months finally went home so we all really miss her..
There are other things as well..
is SO thin that I am terrified. she used to have a awsome sexy butt and the other day I noticed her butt is almost gone!
She is starting to look sick.
She was going through wedding photos and asked if she looked that sickly thin :S
I lied beacuse 1. I just couldn’t say yes beacuse I really belive its just from so much stress…
2. I used to have an eating disorder and we belive my great grandmother had one as well beacuse she was always THIN and when she had alezhimers ( I think I spelled that very wrong)… she showed alot of signs that she had one and did alot of things like she would have…..
I’m super scared but I don’t know what to do!
Post # 3
If she’s aware she might be unhealthy, talk to her. Suggest she talk to a professional.
Post # 4
If you’re so worried, why did you lie to your mother? Why not tell her how you feel and do something about it?
Edit: What does you and your grandmother having an eating disorder do with you lying to your mother? If anything, this is more reason for you to speak up.
Post # 5
I would definitely say something to her but would preempt it by asking her how she is feeling and if she’s ok.
sounds like she’s gone through some serious life changes in the past few years – maybe she needs to talk to someone.
Post # 6
I have been wanting to talk to her about it but I didn’t want to say ” Yes you look sickly!”
and MY grandmother and I both had an eatting disorder so I’m scarred of it “running in the family”…
I don’t know its really sensitive area for me and I’m really scared. I lied all through mine the only person who i told the truth to was my best friend he helped me through it and I’ve been over it for quite a long time but its a scary addiction.
Post # 7
@mstellah: she says its just stress and I’m hoping now that she is settled into her own home it will help
and I’m praying for her to get one steady job. she is so close to finishing shcool- that will help
Post # 8
@alishaloo: We’re actually pretty worried about FI’s mom too. She kinda went through some similar stuff, divorce, new boyfriend, switched through a few jobs. And now she’s tiny. Like, when we went to visit she said she was full after 1 bite of a tuna sandwich…we’re just like wha??
She points it out too…like gosh I look like I’m shrinking next to Fiance in pictures. And I guess we kinda skimm over it too…like oh he’s just tall etc. But yeah, I feel yah. We don’t know what to do either, we don’t live close and aren’t a great support. But maybe we’ll get some ideas from other posters.
Post # 9
@icetea: I live close and I see her eat quite a bit she was already so skinny to start with ! :S I support her the best I can and she just did a finall move so if it doesn’t get better I’m going to have to say something to her!
Post # 10
My mom went through a similar problem, but she fixed hers by getting pregnant. I don’t really have much advice but talk to her about it. Maybe invite her over for a nice dinner and gently bring it up?