- 11 years ago
- Wedding: October 2009
Sigh – I have gotten off pretty easy with not upsetting either side of parents, but I have hit a few snags here and there with my mom, more importantly regarding HER family.
So here is a quick background, my moms family are low-lifes (mean, but true). They’re drunks, some are drug users, some have abandoned their kids and they all have once or twice used my mom for money (none of them have really done much or gone anywhere with their lives, but my mom was lucky enough to meet my dad who has done very well for himself and is well off) so they use/manipulate my mom into money, even most of their kids are rotten too, they have stolen things from my parents as well.
I used to be quite close with a few aunts when I was younger (more or less when I was niave really) Once I was older, and old enough to see and know about my moms family members I kind of cut myself off from them.
So I haven’t really talked to many of them, and I didn’t invite many of my moms siblings to my wedding – only 3 of the 8 were invited to be exact. (I wished it was only 2…but thats another fight)
Now my mom and I were talking this weekend and the topic of speeches got brought up, how my parents will be welcoming my Fiance into the family and my Fiance parents will be welcoming me into the family, and my mom goes well don’t forget about your Aunt, she will be welcoming Fiance in the [moms maiden name] family….and I kind of said…uhhh why? Fi is not going INTO that family…he is not apart of it at all…and why would my aunt even make a speech about that? she has never even met him! and my mom got all touchy and was like well why can other people make speeches, and I was like well they can, and so can my aunt, but I dont understand why she would do ‘that’…
Like this is a serious topic, my aunt (who I don’t really like mind you) wants to go up there and welcome him into a family he is not apart of. apparently my nan (grandma) is for this as well, and I just dont want it to happen. I find it stupid, especially for someone who will probably be drunk when they do it. Its not like my FI’s aunt is welcoming me into [Fi moms maiden name] family. I just dont get it. Its weird to me, and makes me mad.
I started getting quite heated in the convo and my mom threw the phone at my dad and my dad got on the phone and was like…uhh don’t mind her.
I talk to my mom EVERYDAY and I havent heard from her since Friday because of how mad she is about this. (I have called and talked to my dad, but she won’t talk to me) and my Nan is living with my parents for the next couple of months and apprently she is very mad at me too, she doesnt understand why I won’t allow this to happen.
I dont want this ‘speech’ to happen as I dont feel I am apart of my moms family and don’t want my Fi associated with them either. Its stupid!
What do I do? This will make me quite angry if it happens!
I also don’t feel I am being petty for not allowing this to happen. The history with the family is not the greatest, and I have made it known I don’t give a $h!t about my moms family. Ugh