- 4 years ago
- Wedding: July 2017
Am I being selfish and unreasonable? I just need a fresh set of ears to evaluate this correctly.
Let’s start with the facts:
We got engaged a year and a half ago, and were originally planning on having a small destination wedding (only immediate family) in HawaiI in august 2016.
Both of our families live in LA and were extremely supportive of our engagement and our wedding plans.
2 months after we got engaged, we decided we needed more time (it was a senior year of college for me, and we both worked full time, the timing just wasn’t right). This was explained to both of our families, and everyone was fine with waiting another year.
A month ago we finally set the date (7/10/17), and this is when we booked a venue and sent invitations out (9 months in advance).
Shortly after, my mom texted me saying she could not make it because (!!!) they (she and her husband) already planned their Hawaii vacation 2 weeks prior to this date.
Now, we cannot change the date (and not that we want to anyways) at this point. We did give everyone heads up 2 weeks before we went ahead with the booking and received OK from everyone.
I have always had a great relationship with my mom, and it breaks my heart that she cannot reschedule her plans for her only child’s first (and hopefully last) wedding. But I also don’t think that it’s unreasonable to stick with the date we chose for our special day, given that everyone gave us their ok…
I love my fiance’s family, but I am very shy and having my mom there would make the whole thing much less stressful for me.
Am I asking too much of her?