- 10 years ago
I am using my secret name because I don’t want this post ever traced back to me.
So the story is this-my mom is severly depressed and has been for a very long time. My dad passed away when we were young, leaving her a 36 year old widow with 3 kids under the age of 10. It was horrible, but she managed to do a pretty good job raising us. We are all college grads with stable jobs and in happy relationships. We have all moved out on our own leaving her at home by herself.
She has always been depressed, but some years it is worse than others. Growing up, my mom really didnt have much of a life. Working and taking care of us on her own pretty much took up all her time and energy, but she did have a few very close friends. However, over the years she has distanced herself from everyone and stopped doing the few hobbies that she did have.
She had a “meltdown” (don’t know how else to explain it) about 3 years ago and finally pushed away that last couple of friends that she did have. And what is even worse is that my Fiance and I are starting our guest list and when asked who she wanted to invite to the wedding…she has nobody. She doesn’t even speak to her family ( my aunts and uncles). How sad is that?
Monday-Friday she works, comes home, falls asleep on the couch, eats dinner, and goes to bed. On the weekends she pretty much sleeps on the couch all day. Nobody calls, she never goes out, nothing.
This really has been an ongoing issue. She goes to see a therapist, but she won’t go on medicine. Shes been going to the same therapist for so long and I have seen my mom get worse, so I really have my doubts about the therapist.
I dont know what to do for her. She wont listen to me or my siblings about getting help or talking to her doctor, she wont join any groups to meet new people, she really doesnt want to do anything. Even when I was inviting her to look at venues she would say” Well, if you really want me to go I will. But I don’t want to intrude”. Ugh..wtf! I’m at a loss with how to help her. She has serious financial issues that are too long to get into here, but I worry about her all the time. Nothing I say gets through to her and my 2 siblings and I are all she has. I worry that as we get older and start having our own families that she will become even more alone.
Sorry this is so long. Thanks for reading