(Closed) My mom is sick, and I feel like a jerk.

posted 6 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 18
2971 posts
Sugar bee

Take your primary care doctors’ advice.  Bear in mind that even if you did have the flu vaccine you wouldn’t develop immunity for a week or so.

Keep in contact with your sister. Make sure that you get your doctor’s advice on whether to visit the hospital, whether to wear a mask, and so on.

Post # 19
11744 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@IAmTheShadow:  I was saying Target (if you have one near you) often has clinics like CVS and they offer the flu vaccine.  








I know some doctors recommend the flu vaccine after the 1st trimester, but the cdc does advocate for its safety in the first trimester.  There was actually a thread on this very topic recently.  I would actually ask your obgyn for their recommendation on when you should get it. But, as PP said, the immunity doesn’t kick in for 1-2 weeks anyways so it really wouldn’t do you any good as far as being protected from anything going to the hospital to visit your mom.  If you’re comfortable with it, just wear a mask and be sure to wash your hands once you leave.  If you aren’t comfortable with that, that’s okay too!








Post # 20
446 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@IAmTheShadow:  I work in a hospital and ran past my doctor about 20 different illnesses that I have encountered that I had questions about. She said I was fine being around pretty much anything other than TB and fifths disease. Otherwise I should wash my hands frequently. I agree with others that you could wear a mask and or have your mom wear a mask if you’re concerned. Or ask your doctor about being around someone with potential pneumonia.

Post # 21
76 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

You a defintely not alone… I live out of the country and I’m visiting family. I found out I was pregnant a few days before I left for a month trip. I figured I’d get the flu shot here, but apparently if you are pregnant they will not give it to you without a perscription from your doctor, and I think they said at 22 weeks which is crazy I think. I’m calling my OBGYN where I live and she what she says, and I may have to wait until I get back to get the shot…. 

So yeah, I’ve been avoiding sick people / situations so much. My friend was getting over some sort of cold / brochitus thing – I was supposed to stay with her for about 4 days and I left almost as soon as I got there. I’m refusing to step into my sister’s apartment because she has 5 cats and doesn’t do the liter box often. A good friend of mine just started a job working with little kids and on his Facebook status writes about how horrible he feels now that he has every known disease to man – I come home about once a year, and I feel bad that I’m avoiding seeing him this time around. I had to tell my dad I was pregnant because he kept on pushing me to spent the night at his apartment on his couch, and I know it isn’t very clean over there. Certainly not the way I wanted to tell him, but the man would just not let the issue go!

The thing is though…you are pregnant and if there is ever a time to be selfish, it is now. If you were staying home and not pregnant that would be a different story – but you are responsible for another little life so in reality it not be selfish. Do whatever you need to do to be comfortable and healthy. Everyone else will get over it.

Post # 22
7849 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

How is your mom?

Post # 23
1318 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - NH

There are WAY too many germs in a hospital ER to risk getting sick by so early into your pregnancy.  Flu is everywhere, and the ER is such a germ fest and people come in with all types of illnesses and viruses.  At the least, I’d wait until she’s on a floor and still wear a mask.

Post # 24
1150 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

@IAmTheShadow:  Definitely do what makes you feel comfortable but there was actually a thread on this recently about an article in which a husband lost his unborn baby and the wife was in a coma because she contracted the flu after going with her dr’s recommendation to not get the flu vaccine until after the first trimester. The Dr’s now treating her said she should have got it.. I’d recommend you get some further professional/medical opinions, particularly if you are going to be around other sick people. It’s not worth just winging it.

Post # 25
403 posts
Helper bee

Not really sure what your mother’s life choices really have to do with what is happening currently? She’s sick, she needed assistance, luckily your sister was able to step up to the plate and help her. I understand you’re pregnant, but you’re kind of making it all about you right now. If you haven’t already call your sister and see how you can help without exposing yourself to a hospital.

Post # 26
1837 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

as a nurse, i think going to the hospital would be fine–hospital staff are exposed to TONS of germs and have perfectly healthy babies all the time. like others said, just wear a mask and wash your hands frequently. 

that being said, you need to do what you think is best.

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