my mom is walking me down the aisle, but my dad will be at wedding…

posted 3 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 2
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Busy bee

Why not have them both walk you down the isle together? Then you’re adding an honor to your mom, not taking one away from your dad. 

Post # 4
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Honey bee

Honestly, as a child who had separated parents (one not involved), I think it would be more odd and it would be a slight to the parent who was actively involved in raising me to defer to the absent parent if you’re choosing to have a parent walk instead of walking by yourself.  I personally would opt for no parents before I pick the absentee/less involved parent over the present parent.  Especially since you’re doing a father/daughter dance.  If you have him walk down the aisle, are you going to change it to a mother/daughter dance?

Can he escort a grandmother down the aisle before the processional instead?  Or he doesn’t have to walk during the processional at all.  He can already be seated.  No one is coming there to see him walk down an aisle anyway.  Otherwise, I think having the dance is more than enough.  Don’t boot your mom who raised you.

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

Do you have a grandparent or sibiling he could escort down the aisle? My brother was in our wedding party but he still escorted my mom down the aisle and then circled back around to walk down with a bridesmaid.

But honestly, I don’t see why it would be wierd for him to walk down on his own. Isn’t that what your mom would end up doing if he were walking you down the aisle? Personally, I wouldn’t think anything of it and I’m not sure why your officiant felt the need to make you second guess yourself on this.

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