(Closed) my mom just called my FMIL…cue the freakout….

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Hostess
18643 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Eeep!  I hope that it isn’t as similar to a wedding dress and it sounds.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Why can’t people realize to stay away from that colour and all relations? Man life would be so much easier…

Sorry to hear that!

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Um…. I would be FREAKING OUT too!

I think all you can do is talk to her and tell her that is not appropriate because it will be too similar to your dress.  Or better yet, get your Fiance to talk to her and explain.  Because SERIOUSLY… what is THAT?!  Do you get along with your FMIL?  It seems SO bizarre to me that someone who you get along with would do this.

All I can suggest is to make it known to her (in one way or another… hopefully on the civilized side of things as opposed to the crazy freakout side haha…) that this is NOT OK and she must find an alternative.

BREATHE!  It will work out for you!  Your mom seems like a good person to help with this as well… in case you need someone else to deal with it so you don’t go crazy on your Future Mother-In-Law.

Best of luck to you! (BREATHE!) 

Post # 7
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553 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Breathe. Her attire can be changed or maybe you can give her a gift of a dress that you thought she would love and look good in on your wedding day? Maybe you can give her a ribbon or strap in a color to distinguish it from a wedding dress? Maybe you, your Future Mother-In-Law and your mom could go dress shopping and tell her that you wanted them to have similar styles and fabrics?

Hmmmm . . . perhaps a convo between your Fiance and your mom is necessary.

Post # 8
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1347 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I would be upset too! If it is what it sounds like, freak out for 10 minutes and then hatch a plan to get Future Mother-In-Law to wear something else. Maybe your mom or Fiance can convince her that it’s too similar to yours/bridal.

 

Post # 11
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2788 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

Oh gracious! Why are these sales ladies selling our FMILs white/cream/ivory/off white/ bridal color MOG dresses?!

I hope a) she’s color blind and b) it doesn’t look bridal in real life.

Post # 12
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529 posts
Busy bee

Good call on the corsage. Do you know what type of clothing she usually wears? (personally, I can’t imagine my Future Mother-In-Law in a strapless dress…) maybe that would give you some clue? what stores she frequents? give us an update!

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@spaganya: Do you think she is clueless or just trying to be a pain in the butt?  I think it is better for her to think you are sensitive than an angry, yelling crazy person…even if what your Future Father-In-Law says is inappropriate and offensive.  Here’s to hoping the dress is not in fact bridal looking!  Since she got the dress from a bridal shop (assuming it is a MOB type gown), you would think it would not look wedding dress-like.  Maybe it has some kind of jacket with it…most MOB dresses I have seen that are strapless or thin-strapped have one.  Geez….people are so ridiculous (and clueless!) sometimes…

Post # 14
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3316 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I have to say, when I started looking at MOB dresses, I was startled how many of them are in cream or ivory colors.  Needless to say, I am waiting to get my MOG dress until my son and his fiancee come up with guidelines.

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I don’t get why so many dresses for MOGs are white or ivory or cream. It just doesn’t make sense. My Future Mother-In-Law asked me what color I wanted her to wear and I said anything but ivory. I’m crossing m fingers for ya!

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