(Closed) My mom just flipped out on me and rejected my inviations that just came in..

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Sorry, lady, this sucks! Try to not feel too badly about it. She’s the one in the wrong here, and you sound like you’ve got your priorities in check. You’re doing the right thing. Keep your head up!

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Good job on sticking up for yourself. Do you have a wedding website?

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@fresitachulita:  If people complained to her as to why they aren’t getting the information, then why on earth can’t she tell them that you chose to not include the information in the invitations and then give them the information?

I’m trying to think of a compromise and the only thing I could possibly think is maybe a follow up newsletter type thing to the people going to the DW? It could include things like check in times at the hotel, things to do in the area, registry info etc etc. I know that’d be extra postage but you could basically make something simple up on your own computer and then mail them or even send a newsletter type thing to e-mail addresses. 

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

Mom needs to have a big fat glass of wine and relax (probably wouldn’t hurt the bride, either 😉

What’s the worst that could happen- someone gives you a check ILO a gift? Those who really want to buy a gift vs. cash will, as you wrote, just ask me, or my Maid/Matron of Honor, or my fiance’ or my mom where we are registered. 

Guessing you don’t have any guests who are strangers, who wouldn’t know one of the four of you. 🙂

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Is it HER wedding or YOUR wedding?

 

Do what YOU like and let her stew. Things like that try my patience.

 

((BIG HUG))

Post # 10
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Bumble bee

Give Mom some time to calm down, maybe feed her some Xanax or something and then revisit the issue if necessary. The truth is, it’s really not a big deal. She just needs to gain some perspective. In some small way, it’s nice that she’s so concerned about you and your Fiance getting gifts, but as other PP have said, people will show up with a card and cash/check. It’s a destination wedding for goodness sake. I know that when I get on a plane, I need an extra bag just for all the shoes and bathing suits I packed. I certainly don’t have room for a salad bowl or a KitchenAid!

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

Aww *hugs* sorry!

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I have to say 90% of my guests have been on my website and it has been a godsend for all the out of town guests. On the website is the registry info so most of them should find it there and everyone else can just spread the word.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

It’s not hard to figure out where people are registered. Some weddings, when I don’t know anyone besides the bride (I always feel funny directly asking her) I just got to the big store websites and do a search. Most people are either registered at Macy’s, BBB or Target.

Sometimes if you just do a google search with the couple’s name, their registry will come up. Mine still does, six months later. And we didn’t even have a wedding website.

I’m sorry your mom is having a cow over something like this 🙁 Good for you for trying to do things the right way!

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