(Closed) My mom just threw me for a wedding day LOOP … WW weddingbee D????

posted 9 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Well, what do you WANT to do? I think it is a nice idea and I think your relatives would really enjoy it. But it all comes down to what you want to do and what would be the least stressful for you on that morning.

I think it’s cute that she got a “mother of the bride” book….as long as she’s not trying to make you change all your plans last minute! 🙂

Post # 4
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3979 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

Aww… thats sweet of her.

If it were my grandparents staying with my mom, I’d decline. They’re crazy & they’d make inappropriate comments that would just upset me.

I’d stick with the hotel b/c its what you guys had originally planned. Any way to blame the hairstylists & say they can’t drive to the house? 😛

Post # 5
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613 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

uhhhh…i know that it probably sounds great to your mom, but I would caution against this. The morning of my wedding, people would not leave me alone. it was hard to find a moment for myself. We all stayed in the same hotel, but different rooms. In your situation 4 or 5 people would could potentially be sharing the same bathroom. i know you want to get dressed with all the BMs and sisters and mothers, but, having done that, I wish no one knew my room number. It was just too chaotic…all the people, all their ‘stuff’, all the voices, noise, opinions…

my personal opinion is, if its in the budget, stay in the hotel.  you can just call room service for extra towels and you wont have a bunch of relatives mulling about

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

nice of her but i would do the hotel suite thing – more space, less stress, you can pick up the phone and order anything you need without family drama and youre paying for it so use it!  

Post # 7
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6661 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

Hmm.. How far is her house from the ceremony cite vs. the hotel? I’m personally just worried about transportation the day of since my parents house is about 45 minutes from our church and the hotel is attached to it.

I have to say that my best friend who got married in August got ready at her Mom’s house (we all did, I was a BM) and it was totally chaotic. Part of the reason was because it was a very DIY wedding and not everything was finished the night before, also there was just a lot of sitting around waiting to get to the hotel in the first place and it kept raining at different points in the day so we had to be prepared with umbrellas, etc. There weren’t enough rooms for privacy, so her sisters husband and kids kept running around when we were trying to get dressed and do makeup and there was no ‘room service’ not a bite to eat in the house so I felt faint by the time we got to the church. I’ve always been planning on waking up in the hotel the day of and spending the day there so I don’t have to worry about getting into the city or getting soaked before walking down the aisle. 

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I would probably vote not to do that!

I am getting ready in my house in my space – this is where I feel the most comfortable and I lock my bedroom door where I have my huge bedroom, closet (with make-up area) and ensuite bathroom if I need too LOL!!!!

I am only going to ‘allow’ my mom, my Future Mother-In-Law (if she wants too), and my 3 BMs be in my house the morning of!

I really want the day to be relaxed and fun – if you don’t think that you can have the day you are dreaming of while getting ready at your mom’s house just politely decline!

Post # 10
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2695 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Sounds like she’ll have her hands full with the houseguests.  I would approach it that way. 

Post # 12
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4465 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I mean I’m getting ready at my mom’s with all my bridesmaids (8) plus Future Mother-In-Law, future gram in law, my grandmother, and my mom of course.  But my mom also has a pretty big house, three bedrooms, a bar area/den downstairs, two bathrooms, a deck and huge backyard and the wedding is in June. 

I think it depends on how big your mom’s house is and if you would be comfortable with everyone being there.   Personally, both grandmothers are over the moon being invited to get ready with the “girls”

Post # 13
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7431 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

Um a FREE hotel room??? You bet your sweet ass I’d be staying there!!  I plan on going the hotel route, while I have a nice sized bathroom it would not fit more than 2 people comfortably, and I dont’ want a lot of people in my house. So we’re going to get a hotel and get ready there

Post # 14
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900 posts
Busy bee

You should do what makes you comfortable.  I am getting ready at my parents, but I am old school.  And it is the house I grew up in.  Plus, it is the house where my mother got ready for her own wedding.  I get a kick out of stuff like that.

I am going to the salon to get my hair done and then the makeup person is coming to the house to do us all.  But we have room to set her up away from all of us.

Post # 15
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Busy Beekeeper

If it’s already stressing you out, I’d opt NOT to do it and go the hotel route.  Stress to your mother what a wonderfully delightful idea it is to have you get ready at the house, but after thinking about it, you realize that you want the serenity of NOT being around all the house guests, etc. and would prefer to get ready at the hotel.

Can she host a day after brunch or something like that??

Post # 16
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2767 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

i’d do the hotel.  just tell her you don’t want her to be stressed and worried on the wedding day.  and with everyone that’s already at her house you don’t need to add more people for her to worry about.

 

even if she disagrees just do the hotel room.  it’s what you want after all, and you can’t please everyone.

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