Post # 1
Ok, tell me if I’ve gone overboard. Our venue is about an hour away from my parents house, where I was planning on getting ready. My hair salon is 15 minutes away and I think it would be really nice to get ready at home before we leave for the ceremony. But we have a few Irish relatives that are coming to the area, and my mom keeps saying we’re going to invite them all to stay at the house with us! Now its not like they don’t have any other place to stay, my entire Irish side lives within 30 minutes of us so they can stay with whoever.
But is it wrong for me to ask her not to invite them? I really just dont want to deal with a house that is just full of people on my wedding day. I don’t want anyone to see my dress, I just know that I will wake up to my mom making 15 people pancakes while I just need to get out the door to my appointments. I think it will cause unnecessary stress and I want to be able to relax and enjoy my time with my mom and bridesmaids. We are also having the bach party at our house two nights before so it just seems crazy to host even more people!
Post # 3
I don’t think it’s unreasonable to have a peaceful time on the day of your wedding. You will be stressed/emotional and having everyone around will just escalate everything. Perhaps a compromise? Send all of them out to breakfast and an activity or something while you are getting ready? But really, I would ask them to find elsewhere to stay. Just seems like too much stress to me. I think if you tell your mom how stressed it will make you and work together, she will understand. Good luck!!
Post # 4
I would feel the same way. If she insists on having them stay there, I would find a nearby hotel to stay at. I would go crazy having that many people around while I am getting ready!
Post # 5
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
Parents! I would tell her your feeling about not wanting everyone to see your dress and being able to make appointments and wanting things to be calm on your wedding morning. That’s going to be nuts! If you can’t get your way, I definitely think you should get a hotel room near the venue to get ready at. You won’t be able to/want to handle it!
Post # 6
Haha yea I just let my dad know (my mom is out of the country) and he agrees. She’s just a very accommodating person, and very extroverted so I know she loves to be surrounded by people. I let them know that if they really want everyone there at the house then I’ll find someplace else to stay, but that I thought it would be nice to get ready at my old home. I’ve told them this several times actually, but I think it slips my mom’s mind every couple of months, and now we’re under 100 days so I need to know for sure! Good to know I’m not being a bridezilla though, I don’t want to make my family feel unwanted but I can see with crystal clarity how much crazier it will make everything. Thanks!
Post # 7
You could say something like, “Mom, I was really hoping that you, me, and the bridesmaids could have some special time to ourselves before the wedding. Is there any way the relatives could stay elsewhere?”
Or something like that.
It’s not wrong of you at all! You just have to figure out the right way to bring it up..