(Closed) My mom kicked me out of my room again! So her bf can spend the night! (Vent) :(

posted 4 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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2420 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

@echolove: I am so happy that you and your FI have found your own place! The way your mother is acting is insane!   

Post # 4
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10368 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Good for you securing a place to live! I think not being open with your mom, and bailing on her financially without telling her is not a great idea though. It’ll just make a bad situation worse. Responding to inconsideration with inconsideration only escalates things – doesn’t make them better.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I remember your prior post, and I was so angry for you! Thrilled to see you are sticking up for yourself and getting out of this bad situation. Sounds like it is going to be biting you in the ass right up until the moment the door closes behind you, but at least then you’ll be FREEEEEE. KUDOS to you and I am totally excited for you to move out! Not as excited as you are, I’m sure, but still 🙂

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@echolove:  GOOD FOR YOU! I was thinking about you the other day, actually, while my mom was texting me bemoaning her circumstances. I swear they are related. I’m really, really glad to see you found a place and only have to put up with this a little while longer. I guarantee the second you have that key all of this crap will melt away.

Now, your mom, as you know, IS going to try to guilt you or read you the riot act. Do not take it. I lived with my  mom and her husband for like 5 months and when I got my apartment she acted a fool about it. I just very calmly said “mom, I have my life and you have yours. I need to do this.”

Again, so happy to hear you are moving out.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee

Just breathe and focus on the fact that you are getting out of this horrible situation soon. June 5 is SO close, girl! I’m so sorry you’re continuing to deal with this BS, but I’m also really happy to hear that you’re getting yourself out of it. You are so right not to give her the rent and I think it’s also a good idea not to tell her til the new place is secured and plans are made to move out.

Post # 8
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1936 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@echolove:  Ugh, what an awful situation. I read your last thread, and I am just so happy that you and your FI are able to move in together! I know June 5th is still a little ways away, but at least there’s a light at the end of the tunnel. Now, maybe your mom’s bf can start paying rent, since he’s able to sleep in your bed more often than you are. 

btw – what kind of man knowingly kicks his gf’s daughter out of her OWN room? He just does not seem very considerate at all. 

Post # 9
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9145 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@echolove:  June 5 will come so fast and you will be so much happier in your own place!!!  I wouldn’t tell her you’re moving until after you already move your stuff.  I would be worried about her sabotaging your things and/or your move in some way.

Post # 10
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9567 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2018

Good for you! Your mum should not still be kicking you out of your room. Just a couple of weeks to go and you will have your own place!

Post # 11
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1854 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

if a parent is going to make their child pay rent, then the child should get the same respect as if they are living with strangers.

Your mother is in the wrong. Good for you. 

 

Post # 14
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2379 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Good for you!  I can almost guarantee you that she’ll try to give you the sob story of “no one loves me and who’s going to support me now”, but stand strong.  Her BF can help out, and so can your brothers, particularly the one who’s living there for free.

Post # 16
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990 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I hope you are able to handle the next few weeks until you can move to your own place. I wouldnt have handle this nearly as well as you are now. Forget your mother, If I was the BF I wouldnt allow for this to happen to you, I would take the couch.

 

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