Post # 1
Here is my last post about the situation:
So I spoke to my mom about the situation, she knows exactly how I feel, but yet continued to do it. I told her every time he comes over, I’m not giving her full rent money. I’m not paying rent to sleep on the living room floor so her bf can sleep in my room, on my bed. So yesterday in the morning while I’m at work, she calls me to say her bf is coming over and is going to leave around 1pm for work. I get home from work at 12pm. I’m tired hungry, dirty, smelly…(I work with dogs. Lol) I just want to take a shower, eat, take a nap on my bed in my room. Well, I couldn’t! I had to have her take my clothes and the shoes I wanted to wear out of the room, so I wouldn’t have to go into my room when I got there.
I’m always at FI’s parent’s house from the time I get off work, after going home to change and eat, until the time it’s time to come home to sleep. Unless I have class, which is at night anyway. After the morning of not being able to go intoy room, my mom sends me this txt on my way home:
“i made yourbed in the living room ok love you i kno your upset … i pluged your caharger on the wall incase you want to charge your phone.”
A whole day without being able to go into my room or sleep on my bed. I thin. It’s the most ridiculous thing. At this point I’m beyond pissed and hurt. She clearly knew how I felt about the situation and ignored it. I’m hurt that she doesn’t care about how I feel and that she’s kicking her own daughter out of our room, to sleep on the floor for her BF. She was waiting for me in the kitchen and tried to talk to me all nice asking if I went running. All I said was, ” Don’t talk to me mom. And I’m not giving you the rent money. Have your bf give it to you.” She pretty much ran to the room and closed the door without saying a word because she didnt want me to start talking shit in front of her asshole bf.
The good news is that FI and I found a place! But we can’t move in until June 5. I haven’t told my mom yet because we want to put the deposit down first to make it secure, which we will in the next day. But in the mean while, I’m still at home. I can’t wait to tell my mom I’m moving out and stay away from her. I’m not telling her where I’m moving to and it’s my bday next week, which I’m not allowing her to come to my pool party FI is throwing for me. And now I have extra money since I’m not giving her the last months rent, which she has no idea will be my last month.
Post # 3
@echolove: I am so happy that you and your FI have found your own place! The way your mother is acting is insane!
Post # 4
Good for you securing a place to live! I think not being open with your mom, and bailing on her financially without telling her is not a great idea though. It’ll just make a bad situation worse. Responding to inconsideration with inconsideration only escalates things – doesn’t make them better.
Post # 5
I remember your prior post, and I was so angry for you! Thrilled to see you are sticking up for yourself and getting out of this bad situation. Sounds like it is going to be biting you in the ass right up until the moment the door closes behind you, but at least then you’ll be FREEEEEE. KUDOS to you and I am totally excited for you to move out! Not as excited as you are, I’m sure, but still 🙂
Post # 6
@echolove: GOOD FOR YOU! I was thinking about you the other day, actually, while my mom was texting me bemoaning her circumstances. I swear they are related. I’m really, really glad to see you found a place and only have to put up with this a little while longer. I guarantee the second you have that key all of this crap will melt away.
Now, your mom, as you know, IS going to try to guilt you or read you the riot act. Do not take it. I lived with my mom and her husband for like 5 months and when I got my apartment she acted a fool about it. I just very calmly said “mom, I have my life and you have yours. I need to do this.”
Again, so happy to hear you are moving out.
Post # 7
Just breathe and focus on the fact that you are getting out of this horrible situation soon. June 5 is SO close, girl! I’m so sorry you’re continuing to deal with this BS, but I’m also really happy to hear that you’re getting yourself out of it. You are so right not to give her the rent and I think it’s also a good idea not to tell her til the new place is secured and plans are made to move out.
Post # 8
@echolove: Ugh, what an awful situation. I read your last thread, and I am just so happy that you and your FI are able to move in together! I know June 5th is still a little ways away, but at least there’s a light at the end of the tunnel. Now, maybe your mom’s bf can start paying rent, since he’s able to sleep in your bed more often than you are.
btw – what kind of man knowingly kicks his gf’s daughter out of her OWN room? He just does not seem very considerate at all.
Post # 9
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@echolove: June 5 will come so fast and you will be so much happier in your own place!!! I wouldn’t tell her you’re moving until after you already move your stuff. I would be worried about her sabotaging your things and/or your move in some way.
Post # 10
Good for you! Your mum should not still be kicking you out of your room. Just a couple of weeks to go and you will have your own place!
Post # 11
if a parent is going to make their child pay rent, then the child should get the same respect as if they are living with strangers.
Your mother is in the wrong. Good for you.
Post # 12
@crayfish: I already told her I’m not paying her this rent. And I’ll let her know I’m moving out the next two days. My two brothers live there as well and the youngest one, 23, has his own room and pays no rent. My dad also gives her half the rent money. He would cut her off immediately if he knew what she was doing. She hides the fact that she even has a bf from him. My dad is not helping her pay rent so her bf can spend the night. So I’m sorry, but she can have her bf pay the rest of the rent. I also pay her car insurance which I’m canceling too. I’ll let her know I’m canceling that too.
Post # 13
@BlondeBee: Exactly! I don’t even talk to him! He’s an asshole too be being in my room, sleeping in my bed, knowing I’m sleeping in the living floor.
Post # 14
Good for you! I can almost guarantee you that she’ll try to give you the sob story of “no one loves me and who’s going to support me now”, but stand strong. Her BF can help out, and so can your brothers, particularly the one who’s living there for free.
Post # 15
Thank you so much ladies for the support. You made me teary eyed to read your comments of support. 🙂
Post # 16
I hope you are able to handle the next few weeks until you can move to your own place. I wouldnt have handle this nearly as well as you are now. Forget your mother, If I was the BF I wouldnt allow for this to happen to you, I would take the couch.