(Closed) My mom needs a reality check.

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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1981 posts
Buzzing bee

I LOVE your invites! And I think your mom just needs to calm down. So sorry you’re going through this, I hope it gets better!

Perhaps you should keep the planning a secret from here on out though, so she isn’t always criticizing and you can save your sanity. Hugs!

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 1998

Deep breaths. You’re doing a great job. Moms are just nuts. It’s part of the job description I think. πŸ™‚

 

Oh and your invites are GORGEOUS.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Love the invites By The Way.

Have you tried reading her the riot act yet? If not, maybe a good, “mom, this is a special time for me, and right now you are being a source of stress, not a source of support. I appreciate your opinions, but what I need is support, not criticism. Could you please do that one thing for me?” Sometimes saying it starkly makes a difference.

Is she paying for the wedding?

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Ah, you are right, that distinction makes sense. But scratch the riot act, you can’t really take someone on for freaking out, if there problem is freaking out, because it will cause more freaking out!

I recommend yoga. Or regular massages.

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

The invites are beautiful!!  Great choice!  Sometimes mothers don’t know best πŸ™‚

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Love your invites and love that you scored a deal.  πŸ™‚

When my mom started to go a bit nutso with the wedding planning (my parents are paying for most of the wedding too, so I get where you’re coming from), I just stopped talking about for a couple of days.  It helped.  I think that mom’s tend to get really worked up about stuff (just like brides) and that the two people bouncing off each other can lead to madness!

Pat yourself on the back for working under your budget and do some deep breathing πŸ™‚

 

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

*hugs* It’ll be over before you know it! I love your invites, btw!

Post # 11
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571 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Love your invitations!  Those are amazing.

Good luck weathering the mom-storm!

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

oh dear.. hang in there!

your invites are awseome.. spend the 175.00 WORTH IT! believe me.. I am on my second round of invitations as my first ones crumble, I do wish I bought it off someone in the first place. oh well.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

i love your wedding inviites.. $175.00 is a steal!!  good luck with your mom, just take a deep breath  each time she goes overboard.  try and enjoy your planning!!!!

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

LOL i think we have the same mom πŸ˜‰ mine does the same stuff!! just don’t worry about it too much and let her rant and rave on her own time. it’s yours and your fh’s wedding not hers!

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Beautiful invites. Your mother sounds harsh. Deep breaths — in the end, you will have a beautiful day and be married to an amazing Mr. Zippylef, yes? πŸ™‚

Post # 16
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213 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I went to a bridal show with my mom, my Future Mother-In-Law, and a few others. The host of the bridal show said at the beginning of the fashion show portion something along the lines of “Moms and FMILs, remember, THIS IS NOT YOUR WEDDING!!!  Let the bride have the wedding that SHE wants.”  I am SO glad he said that because every so often when my mom gives her opinion, she brings that up and asks me if she is stepping in too much.  BEST BRIDAL SHOW EVER!!! Laughing

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