Post # 1
I am supposed to be driving to visit my sister in DC right now. But I stopped over at my parents’ house to say hey, and I found my mom face down on the floor of her room, wide-eyed, shaking, screaming incoherently.
She’s mentally ill, but tonight the expression on her face looked like the stereotypical “crazy” person. She couldn’t made eye contact, and she was pointing and screaming about things that weren’t there.
The EMTs think she took too much psychiatric medicine. She takes some heavy stuff, lithium, klonopin etc. They have taken to the hospital but they suggested we not come with them. She was thrashing around and trying to grab at them and so they have restrained her. They are going to call my dad when they get her there.
They also said it’s a good thing that she’s screaming because that means there is oxygen in her brain. I’m so scared. Most of all I’m upset that I had to be the one to call 911. My dad didn’t think it was necessary. She has a problem with alcohol but I had to explain over and over that THIS was obviously not a drunken episode. He was home when I walked in the door, but he was in his home office in another part of the house and apparently my mom’s not lying when she says he NEVER LEAVES. Who knows how long she was lying there while he typed away on his computer, oblivious.
I’m so scared, I’m so scared. Worst of all I can’t call Fiance because he is taking a huge exam tomorrow morning in Detroit that he has studied for for more than a year. I can’t seem to get any other family members to pick up their phones, either. I’m just sitting here crying!!!
Post # 3
Wow. In my prayers. Are you on your phone at the hospital. Where is your dad? I don’t envy your position and I am sending thoughts your way.
Post # 4
Lots of huggs!!! That would be pretty truamatizing to find your mom in such a state. I hope you can get a hold of a family member that you can talk to about this. What is with your dad? Is he so numb to her that he ignores when she is really in crisis! Hold on the best you can, hon. You did a great job taking care of your mother!
Post # 5
Oh my gosh, you poor girl! Are you going to go to the hospital with your dad? Sadly it doesn’t sound like he’s capable of looking after your mom. I’m so sorry that the responsibility fell upon you. Hopefully the hospital will help to educate your dad about caring for her.
Post # 6
I am so sorry. You and your family are in my prayers.
Are you able to go to the hospital and visit your mum? Perhaps getting some answers from the doctors/nurses might help you get your mind around things and figure out what your next step should be?
Wishing you all the best.
Post # 7
Aww – I’m so sorry to hear that.
I am going to be thinking of you and your family, but especially for you. I’m sorry that you have to go through this, and I am sending you a massive internet hug!
Post # 8
Oh no! You must be such a wreck. Perhaps going to the hospital so that you can be there when she is ready to see somebody might help? That way you can also make sure she is getting good care and check on her through the nurses rather than a phone call?
Sorry to hear that this happened!!
Post # 9
Oh no sweetie! I am so sorry that you are the one who found her and had to deal with everything. Would you feel better if you went to the hospital and waited there for news? I hope you get ahold of someone soon. Big hugs!
Post # 10
OH that’s terrifying for you. I hope you have by now, reached a friend or family member to come sit with you, or at least talk to you on the phone. (((HUGS))) prayers are with you. Don’t forget to breathe.
Post # 11
Can you ask your sister to come to you instead? I wouldn’t think its a good idea for you to be alone right now.
That must have been terrifying, I can’t imagine. I’m glad you were there to take care of your mom & the situation, and uh, your dad ? … ?? do you even want to try to find out what’s going on with him because that seems like more than just simple denial/ignorance.
I agree with PP, go to the hospital. Not knowing whats going on or whats happening is the absolute worst.
I hope your mom turns out okay – please keep us posted! <3
Post # 12
Very sorry- sending up a prayer for you right now.
Post # 13
My gosh, how terrifying, you are in my thoughts. I’m hoping you are able to reach someone in your family soon. You did the right thing by calling 911, it’s sad that it had to be you but thank goodness you stepped up and did it.
Post # 14
Oh, my goodness. I hope you can get in touch with a family member. I’m sending up prayers for you and your mom!
Post # 15
I’m so sorry. I hope that she is okay.
Post # 16
@Magdalena: I hope your mom is ok I’m praying for you.