(Closed) My mom refuses for our baby shower to be co-ed.

posted 6 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 32
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Just went to a co-ed baby shower – it was a blast!  

If someone offered to host a shower for me that didn’t match what I was envisioning, I’d just decline.  While I did have a female-only bridal shower, I do feel like baby showers are different.  You don’t have to play games and stuff – its a time to celebrate with your friends and family.

Post # 33
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

i think its up to your mom,but maybe she would be ok with the guys showing up later maybe when you open the gifts or something.really baby showers have always been partys for just the women,so i can see your moms point and i can see yours,so compermize(sp?)a little time with just all the women then have the men show up later.

i had both at my showers,19 years ago but the men mostly stayed outside and drank beer.i know that if my husband and i were invited to a baby shower he would decline and say its a woman thing lol and i would just go,but my brother would go if he were invited:)

Post # 34
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

or just have the all women shower your mom is hosting with family and family friends and have another with just your friends( the guys and girls)

Post # 35
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Wait a minute…there are guys who actually like baby showers? You learn something new every day! lol I probably go to about 2-3 baby showers per year and I’ve never been to a co-ed shower before. I don’t think Darling Husband or any of my guy friends would be interested in attending one.

I think that whoever is planning the shower should decide who is invited. By making the shower co-ed you’d also be making the invite list a lot longer and it’s going to cost your mom more money. That being said, there isn’t any reason you can’t throw your own co-ed get together (like @hassle_J:  mentioned) to celebrate the baby.

 

Post # 36
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@As_You_Wish:  

 

lol,i agree.i dont think guys are to thrilled to be at a baby shower.this is jmo,but i dont think men need to be there until towards the end to grab something to eat and help his wife gather the gifts.but everyone thinks different.i dont think op should fight her mom on this,if she wants men there her friends should host a seperate shower for them that would include the guys and it does costs more money to include more people(the guys)not fair on the mom

 

Post # 37
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540 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

QUESTIONS… If it’s a coed party, do they men bring a gift or no gift is necessary? It will still be more money out of pocket since party will double in size. All lady party there’s ususally no alchohol, except maybe a punch bowl. But if men go, they need beer, can get expensive, will not just go towards food and more space is needed. So before thinking your mom is being selfish, think about what you are asking her to do. It’s more work and $$$.

Do you have friends that can possibly throw party as you and your husband want?

Post # 38
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7556 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

If you want to have a co-ed shower you should just decline your mom’s invite. 

Post # 39
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Eh I agree with the PP your mom is host she dicates who is invited not you. And every babyshower except for 1 had women only. The one went to there was male and that was the brother of the mother to be. He was bored out of his mind.

 

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