(Closed) My mom sent out pictures of my dress to EVERYONE!!!

posted 9 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
2249 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

Oh! I’m so sorry!!! were they pics of you in it? I’m sure they will still be wowed by it. ((hugs))

Post # 4
7975 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

🙁 I’m so sorry!

Has your Fiance seen it? Probably no one will show it to him, and that’s really most important, right? Plus, you’ll still look totally amazing (and way different from pics taken in a dress shop) once it’s altered, you’re in some spanx and full make up, hair and veil… you’re still gonna wow the crowd.

this stinks, but what’s done is done, unfortunately. Maybe Mom should pass all wedding related correspondence by you in the future. :/

Post # 6
6661 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

Yeah, were they pix of you in it? It makes a HUGE difference. I mean, they will know if there are long sleeves or if it’s strapless, but once you put it on it looks totally different. 

In the meanwhile, tell your Mom you decided on a different dress so she’ll stop. Tell her you are so embarrased you even considered that one and you’d appreciate if she’d stop showing people. 

Post # 7
3162 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

OMG I would seriously kill my mom if she pulled something like that! At least it wasn’t a pic of you in the dress. There’s a huge difference between some stock shot of the dress and you actually in it. Still, wtf is wrong with moms sometimes?!? 

Post # 8
1220 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

Oh my!  I also have only shown my Fiance and my mom so I’d be super pissed if a picture of it even went out.  Probably so much that I’d go and buy a new dress.


Any idea what possessed her to send it out?

Post # 9
5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

does you mum realize that she has done a big no-no and apologized?

i would be banning her from any more wedding realted info pics as if it was me



Post # 10
2434 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

Wow.  I would be really upset if my mom had done that to me.

Just remember that seeing the dress- even on you- is not going to be anything like seeing you in it on the big day- with you hair and makeup, accessories, flowers, and glowing smile.

Try not to dwell on it and let it ruin the experience for you.

Post # 11
163 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

thats really no fair, I’m so sorry. I do think seeing a picture of the dress versus the dress in real life will be 2 totally different sites, so I think it will still be a “surprise”.

One of my **non engaged** bridesmaids decided she wanted to try on a wedding dress when we were all shopping for bridesmaids dresses, and worst of all my Future Mother-In-Law (her mom) said it was OK – I know what it feels like to have someone steal your thunder.

I agree with rosychicklet, don’t dwell and let someone else ruin it.


Post # 12
6572 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

i realize it sucks. my mom decided to show my dress to everyone who walked in the door, because i stupidly left it at their house thinking my fi wouldn’t see it there. i didn’t realize everyone else in the world would. of course when i learned this, i told her that i’d like the dress to be a surprise, and she told me she was just excited about it which is why she felt the need to show it off. my positive thinking is that nobody on my fi’s side has seen it, other than his mom, and that’s a lot of people. plus, it’s really not the end of the world. when you’re all decked out in hair, makeup, jewelry, etc, people will think you look amazing and that’s what matters.

Post # 13
10218 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

i agree with everyone else! and stock photos usually look NOTHING like the dress in person and on a real live person

Post # 14
29 posts
  • Wedding: December 2011

Oh no! Really really sorry to hear about this. At times like this, I always try and revert to what my poppa has always said — What were the intentions at the heart of action?  Your mom is clearly over the top excited.  As hard as it is, this is definitely one of those times when thinking about the intentions behind the action might bring some solace.  

Post # 15
2474 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Wow I really feel for you…I can’t believe your mom would do that.  At least it was the model photo and not a pic of you in it…but still, I would be really upset too.  Just remember you will look totally different with it on on your wedding day and people might even forget about what the dress looks like beforehand and still be surprised when they see you in it!

Post # 16
14183 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Did she know it was secretive? Otherwise, that’s something I could totally see my mom blabbing about! She’d just be so darn excited she couldn’t keep it to herself!

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