- 6 years ago
- Wedding: June 2012
My mom just called me kind of stressed out because my Maid/Matron of Honor just chose the date for my shower a few days ago (I am getting married in early June). This was after weeks of my other BM’s hounding her because most of them have to take off work (nurses). My mom, who is totally not the type to stress out about this kind of thing is getting really upset. She is worried that no one will be able to come to my shower because Maid/Matron of Honor still hasn’t sent out any invitations. She has offered to send out invites, help with whatever is needed, and help pay for whatever is needed but my Maid/Matron of Honor isn’t really asking for help. My other BM’s have offered to help as well.
I know my Maid/Matron of Honor means well and is trying to take it all on herself because she doesn’t like to inconvenience people and because she feels like it is her “job.” She is an amazing friend and would never put things off to be lazy or spiteful. However, she works and goes to school and doesn’t have a ton of time, which means bridal shower planning keeps getting pushed to the wayside. That I totally understand, but with everyone offering to help this could have been taken care of a long time ago.
So, my mom kind of wants to just take over the planning to make sure it gets done. However, she doesn’t want to hurt MOH’s feelings. What should I do? Should I talk to MOH? Have my mom handle it? Talk to my other BM’s? Or should I just let her plan at her own place and be thankful for who is able to show up?