(Closed) My mom told me that my wedding is a total nightmare

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Hostess
18637 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Wow is there any way you can pull out and not take her money?  If it’s going to cause that many problems, is it really worth it to have a “dream wedding” that you don’t even want?

Post # 4
Member
116 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I am so sorry you feel this way. It all becomes VERY overwhelming for everyone involved. I would cut some of the costs and figure out how much it would save and then address that to your Mom and let her know you would rather cut these out so that costs could be used elsewhere. Good luck!!!

Post # 5
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1199 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Oh date twin, I am sorry to hear that!!!  Is there any way you can express to her that she can cut some of these costs and save everyone a lot of heartache?  I mean, have you told her that she is the one making the wedding a nightmare?  Try to calm down and talk to her calmly and ask her why she thinks the wedding is a nightmare, and if you can suggest a solution to each of her points, maybe she will start to see the light.

Good luck!

Post # 6
Member
2126 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Sorry..my mom is being the same way. We are still 9 months out from the weddng date, but I can see a nightmare begining to grow. The only thing that’s worked for me thus far is being easy going about stuff…not arguing with her and letting her do things her way if I know it won’t kill me.

Post # 7
Member
2095 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I was in the same boat with my mother. Darling Husband and I joke that this was her wedding. She overspent and blamed me for it when she had to have x,y,z and I would have been happy with a,b,c. She was determined to have frozen margaritas to which i told her the children would want a slushie. So we nixed signature drinks and had sodas and beer. When I told her we didn;t have to have certain things it was this is my money and I will spend it how I want. Then 3 weeks before the wedding I was accused of taking her broke with this wedding that I had to have and wouldn;t I rather have just gone to the JOP. I said nope…I would rather have the original wedding I planned on first…lol.

Post # 8
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362 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Sorry your mother is stressing you this way. It is almost like she is trying to plan the wedding of “her” dreams and yelling at you for the cost. Being that your wedding is still months away the stress and tensions will only get worse, talk to her NOW. Let her know  that you want to pull things back.

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