(Closed) My mom wants me to invite her friends, that I’ve met once?

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper

That would be a big ol’ NOPE from me.  Sorry, but my wedding is about celebrating with my loved ones, not about the hurt feelings of near-strangers!

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper

@rachie205:  That’s a good question, I think you could just exclude the RSVP card and then follow up with them personally.  I’m not sure of the etiquette on that one.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

It’s not your problem that your mom didn’t invite them to Florida (if I’m understanding the situation right)! You don’t have to invite them IMO.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper

It’s your wedding, if your mom is willing to pay for the dinner for the couple including the kegs he will be drinking…..

Post # 9
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Busy bee

I don’t think you should invite them. You don’t know them, and you’re paying for it. It also sounds like there’s a potential for drama along with it, so you mom really should be more understanding on that front.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Tell your mom that the point of inviting people to the wedding is to have the people there who are close to you and your soon-to-be husband.  It’s not like a trip to the local fair where you invite people along because, “the more the merrier.”  

I think she’s stupid for wanting to continue being friends with people who got all bent out of shape for not being invited on their vacation.  Talk about being entitlement minded!

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I agree with a lot of the PPs.  They’re not your friends to invite (or not invite).  The day really is about the bride and groom celebrating their love and the joining of their families with their loved ones. 

Our rule is that only people that have met both me and my fiance get an invitation.  This has really helped to keep the guestlist in check.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I am having this same situation my mom just invited all of her coworkers, who I do not know at all! urrgh, just wanted you to know your not alone. hope things work out ok for you =]

Post # 13
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

That would be a no for me also.

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Definitely not.  It’s your wedding AND you’re paying, no way.

Post # 15
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Sounds Like my mom! Lol My Fiance an I recently wrote down our guest list so that we could come up with a budget and my mom called is to “inform” (not ask) us that she WILL be bringing 5 guest to OUR wedding( not including her +1 and my 2 younger  brothers) to eat and drink at OUR expense. We have never met any of these people before.

 

I told her NO. I’m not going to cut people that Fiance and I want there to celebrate with us so that she can bring 8 guest 5 whom are complete strangers. 

 

 

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I’m usually the one hollering to have the parents’ friends there, but your parents aren’t paying, so I don’t see why these strangers need to be there. 

That said, will your mom have other family members to spend time with at your wedding?  If she’d have no one to talk to, then I’d see a reason to invite them?

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