- 4 years ago
- Wedding: December 1969
So I’ll try to summarize this back story. I’m 22 now and have been living with my bf for 4 years. We’ve known each other for 7 but have been a couple for 4. My mom and I had a really bad relationship when I was a teen, it was becoming abusive despite a loving childhood. My bf (friend at the time) offered me a place to live when I turned 18 so the morning of my bday I jumped on the opportunity and snuck out of the house. Once I came to live with him we bonded and became a couple. He’s 40 years older than me. I know its crazy and I cant really explain our unique pairing on a blog post but we love each other deeply. We both treat each other with love and respect and support each other. We’re both thoroughly educated people (I’m not done with my degree but I’m getting there) so it’s not like we haven’t thought this through. Our friends and my bf’s family have seen us grow as a couple and are excited for our wedding. I know I’m young but we’ve been living the married life; not just the fun parts but the nitty gritty hardships and important decisions of life. We’ve been through so much together, I just wouldn’t have it any other way.
My parents never forgave him for taking their “little girl” away. He didn’t take me away. I RAN. Like hell. Anyway, so my dad has FINALLY met my bf and is putting his issues aside because now that he’s actually MET my bf he’s realised he’s a good guy and he wants me to be happy.
My mother says shes “morally opposed” (shes deeply religious) to our wedding and says that to go to my wedding would be condoning it. I’ve explained to her that she doesn’t have to support my decision and that I just want her there to support me but she doesn’t understand. I’m trying to be empathetic to her because I know it’s hard for her but at the same time I feel like she’s being selfish, it’s my life and he makes me happy! I went dress shopping without her. I sent her pictures with no response. It just makes me sad because I feel like we’re both missing out although she’s missing out more than I am. I’d understand if everyone was unhappy about our engagement but she’s the only one! Any advice on how to calm the waters?