(Closed) My mom was released to die at home: HEARTBROKEN

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2015 - Holly Hedge Estate

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stefano101:  oh my gosh, I’m so sorry fellow bee 🙁

I was just commenting on a seperate thread about how i was missing my mom at the moment, then i just read your post. Made me tear up, I am sending you the biggest hug possible.

Your mom sounds wonderful. She sounds like a woman who was raised with great morals by her parents and who then instilled them into her children. You said that she is the rock in your family, and that you are so much like her. That is so incredibly beautiful to hear, because I interpret that as you carrying on her strong family-minded ways. 

reach out to me if you ever feel the need. 🙂

Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper

I’m sorry  bee, it sounds like God a perfect angel in heaven. I can’t imagine how difficult this must be for you and your family. She is blessed to be surrounded by her loved one and to have such a wonderful family who loves her. 

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Bumble bee

I just came here to say, I’m sorry.

Post # 5
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Newbee
  • Wedding: January 2016

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stefano101:  I am so sorry Bee!
My dad is quite sick at the moment and we don’t know how mch longer we have left with him eithre and it is truely the most heartbreaking feeling! My eyes well up with tears everytime I think about it and I cry in bed with my finace at night!
I am glad you have such a supportive and caring family around you. Remember to lean on them and anyone else who will listen becuase you are going to need to talk and cry and vent!
My thoughts and prayers are with you, your family, and especially your dear mum!!

xxx

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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

This is so hard.  I’m sorry.  🙁

To answer your question of “why?” unfortunately no one knows that answer.  I had a mentor/friend pass away just over a year ago at age 51.  She was fighting cancer for 2 years and like how you talk about your mom, was literally the most selfless, most kind person you can imagine.  She loved her work (music director at a church), she loved people, she loved her family, and most of all she loved life.  She kept up a caring bridge site and her goodbye letter still sticks with me.  She wasn’t worried about dying; she was worried about the people she would leave behind.  She was concerned about her friends and family and wanted to make sure they were able to find peace through grieving.  If I can be half the woman she was I will be doing pretty well for myself.

I hope you find peace.  I know it’s tough and can’t even imagine how you’re feeling.

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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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stefano101:  your mom sounds so beautiful and I am so sorry she’s being taken from you too soon. Life is so cruel and unfair at times. You are truly lucky to have such an amazing mother in your life and you will make her proud always. Even though she won’t be with you physically, she will always be with you – after all, you were made from her. Sending lots of  love and support your way to help you get through this.

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Post # 8
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Busy bee

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stefano101:  Words cannot express how sorry I am – this must be such a difficult time for all of you.  Sending you hugs and courage but I wish I could do more.

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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

I am so sorry Bee.  Sendings hugs your way.  Make the most out of the time you have left, and know that you are blessed to have a mother as wonderful as yours.  

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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I am so sorry bee.

I’ve lost both of my parents, Fiance has lost his mom and last year, between August and October we lost both of our grandfathers, the two men who meant the most to us. FI’s grandfather also had pancreatic cancer and it was such an awful thing to have to watch. I know it doesn’t seem like it right now, because we selfishly want our loved ones to be with us forever, but she will no longer be suffering, and for that, you can be thankful. Just cherish the time you have with her, as it sounds like yall are doing. Idk if this is true for everyone, but being right there with my grandfather (although I was on a plane home from getting engaged when he passed) through the last months/struggles, made it easier for me because I felt relieved that he was no longer suffering and was finally happy again. I know when my parents died (I was almost 12 and 16) I was just so blind sided with my dad and in denial with my mom, that it made it beyond hard, plus I was young. I mean it’s hard anyways, but when you’re a caretaker, it’s a different world and I just felt at peace. I miss my pawpaw more than anything, but I know he is back home with with family (wife and kids) and no longer suffering, so I’m happy about that. 

Sorry for rambling, but I just hope you can find some peace through all of this. Remember you have to take care of yourself as well. Hugs. 

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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2016 - Hazelton Manor - Vaughan Ontario

Sending hugs your way! xo.

Post # 12
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Busy bee

I’m so sorry. I know this is a hard time. My father passed away 5yrs ago from colon cancer (he was diagnosed 5+yrs prior). 2 weeks prior to him passing we thought he had the flu so we sent him to the hospital. A lot of medical issues popped up and a number of days before he passed his doctor told us his cancer spread and he didn’t have long left. Dad apparently knew how bad it was, but never told is. I’m grateful that his passing didn’t take too long. I have friends who had parents that were able to die at home. I wish we had that instead of the cold hospital atmosphere. When the time comes, take comfort knowing they are at peace and the pain is over. 

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

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stefano101:  I am so sorry that your mom’s beautiful life is being cut short. The only thing that I can offer is my compassion and share my belief that sometimes we are given grace in the chance to say our goodbyes, make sure that our loved ones know exactly how loved they are, and make their last days more comforting.  Just remember that are doing those things for your mom and how much it means to both of your parents. Biggest hugs to you. 

Post # 14
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Worker bee

Uhg. Im so sorry to hear. Your mom sounds wonderful. One of a kind. I dont have words of advice, other than know we are here and i hope you can find peace. 

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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

I am so sorry to hear. 

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