(Closed) My mom was released to die at home: HEARTBROKEN

posted 4 years ago in Emotional
Post # 31
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

So very sorry to hear xxxxx

 

Post # 32
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

so very sorry to hear xxxxxxxx

Post # 33
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Busy Beekeeper

I am so sorry that you and your family must endure this difficult time. At the same time I am so very happy for all of you that you have had this incredible woman in your lives and that you’ve had the opportunity to create happy new memories during such a difficult time. Hugs.

Post # 34
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

My heart is breaking for you. You mom sounds like an amazing person. I’m so sorry you have to go through this. Tons of internet hugs.

Post # 35
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Helper bee

stefano101:  I am so very sorry to read this.  This sure is going to be a difficult time and I wish you peace and comfort.

I lost my beautiful, selfless grandmother to pancreatic cancer 15 years ago.  She too decided to spend her final days at home.  It is a very tough illness, it sounds like your mom fought very hard.

Take care bee. So many hugs to you.

 

Post # 36
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012 - Chateau Briand

I am so so sorry youre going through this! My mom passed away from pancreatic cancer six years ago, I know how devastating it is and painful to watch helplessly. If you need to talk, pm me. You and your family are in our thoughts!

Post # 37
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I am beyond sorry that you and your family are having to go through such a difficult time. Your mother sounds like a truly amazing person and I’m sorry her life is being cut short. It’s so hard to understand God’s plan, especially when we are losing someone we love so dearly. There’s a quote by Billy Graham that I think about almost daily, “My home is in Heaven. I’m just travelling through this world.” It might not be much of a consolation now and I don’t expect it to be but it has helped me with losses and to understand that I will have to deal with future losses, as will everyone unfortunately. It’s just the way God has planned our existence on Earth and we may never understand why. But being with your mother and father now during this tough times is what’s most important, I’m sure it means the world to them. Sending lots of hugs and prayers your way. May God give you and your loved ones the strength you need. 

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Post # 38
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Newbee

I am so sorry you and your family are going through this.  I lost my own mom on Aug 31st to pancreatic cancer so I understand how you feel.  Nothing I or anyone can say will take away your pain but the important thing is for your family and friends to lean on each other and be there for each other.  Try to be strong for your mom and make her as comfortable as possible.  Like you, my mom and dad were soul mates and I worry for him but I think your dad (like mine) is stronger than you think.  It’s hard for them to move forward in life, but somehow they find the strength to do so.  Try to focus on the good things and memories.  I am so happy (and a little jealous) that your mom made it to your wedding.  Take so much joy in that…that she was there to help you plan and see you on the happiest day of your life.  Hugs and prayers to you and your family

Post # 39
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

stefano101:  I’ am so sorry to hear about your mom. How wonderful that she is able to spend her remaining time with people who really love and cherish her. You and your family are all so strong and kind to give these gifts of comfort and love to your mom.

Post # 40
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I’m very sorry Bee, my heart hurts for you and your family. ((hugs))

Post # 41
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Helper bee

Atalanta: It’s very comforting when you say you’ve been there. It’s so true, unless you have lost someone you just don’t get it. Thank you for recommending a cancer site like this one, I’ll look into that. It even helps just being on here and looking at everyones pretty dresses, it’s become a nice little escape you know. 

Also bees, I was talking with someone yesterday who recommended post marital counseling for couples who are starting a new marriage while grieving. I thought this was a really good idea to share bc we all want our marriages to be successful but I know I can’t give my Fiance a 100% right now. It’s like I am so excited to be married but the aftermath of my mom shortly after will definitely destroy me. I also want Fiance to know it’s not him when I get annoyed or have a break down over the littlest things. He has never grieved over anyone so it will be a shock for him to see me cry 24/7. It’s now 5 days till my wedding and my mom just said if she doesn’t make it, to still get married. I promised her I would, but omg what a way to start a marriage. 

Post # 42
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

sending positive thoughts your way

Post # 43
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

I am so, so sorry that you are going through this. Sending oceans of love to you and your family.

Post # 44
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I am sorry to hear.

I lost my father at age 8 to colon cancer (his passing’s milestone [not anniversary] was yesterday —he has been gone many years but it still hurts.

My mother is gone too, to cancer  — that was almost 19 years ago.

Wishing you the best — it never is easy when a loved one is critically ill — find a social worker or some other professional whose specialty is grief counseling — and take advantage of that person’s help. It will do you a world of good — you will also get a pipeline to resources that can help you and your dad.

Wishing you the best — if you are spiritual or even if you are not, take advantage of a chaplain’s services — hospitals and hospices usually staff thgem.

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