Post # 1
Not what I had in mind.
Small backstory: FH and I had been saving for our wedding, his truck all but died and all of the money we saved went into fixing that. My parents stepped in because they didn’t want us to elope and offered to pay for everything.
I’ve always been told that photography is the one thing that most people want to splurge on, and I feel the same way. I found a great photographer who would travel, got 6 hours, all of the photos on a CD and a copyright release for $785. I thought that was a pretty good deal considering the smallest packages I’ve seen with other photographers are roughly $1000 or more. I sent the link to my mom for her to look at, but she wants to use the guy that takes all the sports photos for the school I went to. I know the guy, there’s nothing wrong with his pictures, but he doesn’t edit any of them. He’s only $200, but still. I’ve seen the handful of weddings he’s done and I’m not impressed. I’ve been trying to talk to my mom about the importance of wedding photos, but she seems to think $800 is too much. For anything else, I’d agree, but this is my wedding. I want great pictures, not just good ones.
But, I feel bad about the cost. I’m not working right now, FH is, but he’s paying for his last few classes at college out of pocket. I know that he wouldn’t have a problem putting some money back so we could have a nice photographer, but I still don’t want to bring it up to him just yet.
I’m just frustrated with it. I’ve already tried to cut a lot of corners, but my mom thinks that we should cut corners absolutely everywhere. Sometimes I regret every accepting their offer and I wish we’d have just stuck with the original plan of a JOP ceremony and then a nice dinner with our parents and friends afterwards, but it’s too late now because I’ve found myself actually wanting this wedding…
Just needed to rant a bit.
Post # 3
Bring it up with your Fiance. The other photographer is really cheap as well so I think if you could stretch to afford him, do it.
IMO photography really is important. Even if you can only afford 3 hours of a good photographer, I think it’s worth it.
Post # 4
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
Rant away then tell mom no and figure out how to pay for the photographer you want. $800 is a great deal! Being a wedding photographer is very different from taking posed sports shots which to me look like crap at best anyway. Your mom is being unreasonable.
Maybe showing her examples of different photographer’s work will help? Show her: 1) super expensive $5K+; 2) standard wedding photog $1500-2K; 3) your $800 guy/gal; and 4) her $200 pick side by side. If she still persists, you can try to put together a payment plan with the $800 photog on your own.
Post # 5
I think them paying for the entire wedding is very generous. If your mom isn’t comfortable spending this much on something that is not a priority for her, I would personally feel guilty about trying to get her to pay it anyway. Ask her to pay in the $200 she’s comfortable with, and you save up for the rest. Your wedding is almost a year away, you have time, and this way everyone wins.
Post # 6
@clairebear000: My point exactly, plus, the $800 package includes traveling costs, whereas the other guy will add that in later base on miles.
@beachbride1216: I took your advice and sent her the links to the photographer I like. She’s looking over it and will let me know.
@Taeyers: I know, which is why I didn’t push the issue. I’m very grateful for what they’re doing, no doubt about it. I’m going to run the suggestion by my mom and FH, because we really can save up to cover the rest of the money for the $800 guy even if my parents don’t put anything towards it. I’m just worried that she will go talk to the other photographer before I get a chance to talk to the other guy.
Post # 7
@SouthernGirl: Yikes, definitely don’t let her do that! Let her know honestly that you are not happy with his work and higher quality photography with editing is important to you. Rather than framing it as “I would rather hire the other photgrapher instead of this one” just tell her “I am not interested in hiring this photographer.” That’s harder to argue with, and hopefully would prevent her from going rogue and hiring him anyway.
Post # 8
@Taeyers: I hope so. I really just don’t want her to go hire this guy and then me have to come in and tell him we’re not interested.