(Closed) My mom's wedding dress

posted 8 years ago in Dress
Post # 32
5092 posts
Bee Keeper

That would be a shame to cut up that dress.  Sure, if it had a piece that was damaged and you wanted to pin a small piece inside your dress or something.  Wear a piece of family jewelry instead!

Post # 33
1064 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012 - Chateau Briand

I agree with your mom on not wanting to cut up the dress but i completely understand why you’re upset about it. I don’t think you’re being a brat; you’re acknowledging your mom’s feelings but expressing your own disappontment in the situation. Maybe your grandma will be able to convince your mother otherwise but if not, maybe just being able to try iit on would be a special moment for all of you.

Post # 34
2187 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Sorry, I agree with your Mom on this one.

Post # 36
967 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Go on something borrowed something new!

Post # 38
691 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

@AllyCRN:  Darn! I love it and want it!!!!!!

She did a stunning job

Post # 39
272 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

With regards to your fiance….your dress is one detail be does not get to be a part of. The dress is all about what you want (except in this case it belongs to someone else, so it depends on them as well).

The dress is beautiful, and I have faith that it could be restructured by someone with experience.I bet they could remove the structuring underneath so it wasn’t a ball gown and remove some of the fabric at the bottom so it isn’t so
long….perhaps turn the extra fabric into a train or veil depending on how much there is.

I agree with your mom about not cutting it to use the pieces somewhere else. I would give my daughter my dress in a heartbeat if she wanted to wear it, even if that meant alterations However, I would not let my dress be cut up. What if you have a daughter who wants to wear the dress? 

As for the cost of the alterations…that is entirely up to the person who will be paying. The FIRST thing I would do would be to find someone who can do the work and get an estimate. If they can’t do it, or it’s too much then the decision has been made for you.

Edit to add:  I agree with a previous poster that this type of fabric is typically taken up from the top, rather than cut off the bottom. I guarantee someone can do this for you.

Post # 40
96 posts
Worker bee

That dress is lovely. I would have loved to wear my mother or grandmother’s dress, but alas, they were left behind in Mexico.

I think you should really give it the old college try as far as getting it altered. I’ve seen some amazing transformations done through alterations. I doubt that it will cost more than a new dress. What is your budget for a dress?

You say that you are concerned about the fragility of the lace holding up to alteration… well if the lace doesn’t end up holding up, then you can use pieces of the dress like you wanted to right? If the dress is going to be “ruined” either way, might as well attempt to get it altered and that way your mother can no longer object.

I’ve altered and sold beautiful vintage dresses from the 50s and the lace stood up to alteration.

Good luck!

Post # 41
1088 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@AllyCRN:  I think you have a right to be sad. It seems like you have a sentimental attachment to the dress, and want to have it as a part of your big day.

That being said I can kind of understand your mom not wanting it cut up. I’m not saying she’s right, because I’m pretty sure I’d just let my daughter do whatever she wanted with my dress in the future, since I would never use it again. Do you have a sister who has yet to get married, and maybe that is why your mom doesn’t want it taken apart?

Post # 44
1291 posts
Bumble bee

cant be hemmed? YES IT CAN!!! a lot of dresses have a scolloped bottom and are made shorter. They just detach the skirt from the bodice and take it up from the waist. That’s what they did with mine which looks a lot like your moms. Talk to a seamstress. it def can be done!!!

Post # 46
1677 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@AllyCRN:  Have you tried on dresses yet? If not, you would be surprised by what looks good on you.

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