My mother doesn’t want me to marry him

posted 7 years ago in Christian
Post # 3
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

The Bible comment was not appropriate.

Not once in there did you even bring up the possibility that your mom made any valid points.

Don’t end up losing a parent at this time.  I’m not at all saying don’t get married, but you have to find a way to bring them together.

 

 

 

 

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

are you sure it’s about religion? you’re young, and it can be difficult for parents to realize their kids are growing up and moving on. she also could have been shocked by the realization that marriage is a possibility for you in the near future.

Post # 5
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178 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

@missy11: Why do you think the Bible comment was inappropriate?  I don’t understand.

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I also think you’re a wee bit young at the moment.

What other legitimate reasons does you mother have? Also I agree that giving your borther a car doesn’t count. Why would it? Giving someone a car doesn’t make someone a good person worthy of marriage.

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

She took a cheap shot at her mom being Catholic and trying to say that her mom wasn’t behaving in a proper Catholic way.  What does she really think the bible says about her getting married, obviously nothing.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Throwing Bible quotes for your defense on getting married?  Really?  How does what’s in the Bible apply to your defense?  And, if you’re religious, you should know what the Bible says. 

To me, it’s like you’re using the Bible to back up your arguement on why you should get married and why your mother is wrong.  If you don’t know the Bible well enough to use it naturally in an arguement, then don’t use it at all.

Post # 9
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Busy Beekeeper

Is your mother a bad person?  

I’m being serious!  

Because if she’s a bad person, then why listen to word she has to say.

But – if she’s a good person, perhaps she has some wisdom in what she shared with you.

Could you expand more on the details?

My mother had a similar talk with me (and I’m 35).  She didn’t want me to marry my now husband.  She thought I could do much better.  He didn’t have the qualities that she wanted me to have in a husband.

Just because your pastor wants the two of you to get married doesn’t really mean that your mom doesn’t have some valid points.

I think before you write them off, you really need to consider what she is saying and look deeply to see if there is any validity to it.

If there isn’t – then I’d say blow off what she says.  

The Bible says you are supposed to honor your parents – not do everything they tell you to do.  You would honor her by respectfully listening to her and communicating with her… and then making your own decisions.

Post # 10
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

It sounds like your mom will not listen to reason, and is making excuses for why she won’t accept your boyfriend. Honestly, i’m not sure why people are jumping on you about the religion comments – plenty of people I grew up with were that way about the whole Protestant vs Catholic divide. At my high school baccalaureate, they held it in a Catholic church instead of a Baptist church for the first time – parents picketed (and I went to public school!!!)

So, yes, I could see that being a legitimately large factor!

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Again, being a religious person, you should know the basics and the answre to your question can be found in the 10 commandments. 

Post # 16
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

Okay, I did read that in a different way.

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