(Closed) My Mother feels left out at the reception

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
8353 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

You could have her give a speech too. Just make a time limit for each of the speeches. You can also mention her directly in the program by giving her a compliment about how much work she has done.

Post # 4
636 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I presented my mom with my bouquet after the speeches at my wedding.  The bandleader made an announcement something to the effect of, ‘The bride would now like to present her bouquet to her mother as a token of her love and thanks…’ My mom was very surprised and she loved it. Maybe that would work for you?

Post # 5
1104 posts
Bumble bee

Why can’t your mother also give a speech? There is no reason why you can only have one. Both my parents spoke at our wedding.

Post # 6
5494 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2011

I think both parents should give a speech especially if they are divorced.  I’m sure each has a lot to say to their daughter on her wedding day.

Post # 7
5154 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I think that it would be really nice if you offered the option of your mother giving a speech, leading a blessing, etc as well 

good luck! 🙂

Post # 8
516 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

They should both be giving speeches!

Post # 9
339 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I’m gonna jump on the bandwagon 🙂 I say they both get speeches!

Post # 10
7 posts

My parents are divorced and my dad has paid for 80% of our wedding, my mom does not have the money to contribute at all. So obviously my dad is saying the main speech as he is sort of the host of the wedding. And because I wanted to include my mom, I asked her if she would like to say the Grace for dinner. She said she is honoured and would love to, but now when I sent the programme for the evening she mentioned she was still hoping to say a short speech and could she do it before Grace. But I just feel that there are enough speeches and I just don’t see the point. I don’t want to hurt her feelings, but she must also understand that this is not about what she wants to say in front of people, she can also just tell us what she wants to say, personally. I have already stepped on toes with this wedding by having to be careful how much say my mom has because she has not paid for anything whatsoever. How do I tell her that we just want her to say Grace and leave it at that? I mean it sounds silly to tell her “No, only say Grace and nothing more” but I just know it’s not going to go down well and people will be tired of hearing speeches (oh and she’s not a strong public speaker either). My mom also has a tendancy to speak before thinking and I’m nervous she will say something that won’t go down well with my dad and step mom so I just don’t see the point

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