- 7 years ago
- Wedding: April 2011
About 4 years ago, my mom lost her ever-loving mind and began an epic family fight between herself and my sister and I got dragged into it. She disowned me and I gladly accepted and told her never to call me again. A few months later, she sued my sister for custody of one of my sister’s children (of course, if you ask her, that’s not why they went to court at all, even though those are the exact words on the petition). On the day of the hearing, some of my aunts (my mom’s sisters) showed up at the courthouse and sat on my sister’s side, but didn’t say a word.
A year later, my sister, my mom and I all reconciled and things have been *okay* ever since. Then I start planning this wedding a few months ago and she starts telling my sister that if my aunts are coming to the wedding, she isn’t. My sister relays this to me, and I don’t say a word about it to my mom because I figured she was venting and might get over it. But she didn’t. She told me the other day that she would come to the wedding but not the reception if my aunts were invited and she doesn’t understand why they are so important.
Today, I find out that my stepfather is not coming to the wedding because he’s “not been invited”. Apparently, my mother has told him something to make him believe he is not invited even though the first conversation I had with her about the wedding contained these exact words: “Do you think SF will wear a tux to the wedding?” A question to which she responded yes and then we had a conversation about how much said tux would be and where to get it. This is but one example of the crazy way she twists words and plays people against one another. She is becoming increasingly erratic and unpredictable and well, just batshit crazy!
I don’t know what I’m looking for here. There’s no talking to her. You cannot reason with the unreasonable. I suppose I just want to know if there are any bees out there who have had a falling out with their mothers who can tell me that sometimes it IS them and not us.