(Closed) My mother is crying over the wedding , need advice !

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 16
3169 posts
Sugar bee

Colormepink:  Congrats on working it out. It sounds like you are blessed with a very caring Mum and Dad and they’re blessed with a lovely daughter too 🙂

Post # 17
422 posts
Helper bee

Don’t feel bad, it was an honest mistake (that I had no idea of the rules either!). Your mother is actually probably overreacting a bit, but don’t blame her for that either. Your baby getting married is kind of emotional :p

Post # 20
11482 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

Colormepink:  Since you’re having to order new envelopes, I also wanted to ask about the wording of your invitations themselves. Have your parents seen the wording? If not, you may want to discuss this with them as well. Traditionally (but not always), it is the hosts of the event whose names appears  at the top as the individuals who are issuing the invitation.

Post # 21
80 posts
Worker bee

You really shouldn’t feel bad. Yes it does look alot better them going to your mums house and I can see where they are coming from however I can imagine how your feeling with all the planning. If your anything like me, you sound like a people pleaser. I find it very diffcult to say no to people & end up getting myself in situations. Hope everything works out ok xx

Post # 22
719 posts
Busy bee

I’m glad you changed it.  Not knowing the personalities in the group, I wonder if your Mother-In-Law was even being a little manipulative.  The people in my life on both sides are a bit manipulative and so I’m hyper sensitive to it.  Changing it to either your parents or yourself was the right thing to do.

Post # 23
19 posts

I’m glad things worked out. Hope your fiance agrees with you and is supportive. Your mom sounds amazing.

Post # 24
1034 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

You can also order a return address stamp at Staples (if you are in the US). It might be quicker if you go into the store and see how much they can rush it. I agree with PPs and I think you’re doing the right thing by fixing this. Your mom may have complained about doing your brothers invites because she was the mother of the groom. But if she’s anything like my mom, she’s definitely taking pride in being mother of the bride this time, and this is a great bonding time for you guys. I would try to involve her as much as possible. If your Fiance takes issue, try to explain it to him that way. Good luck and congrats!

Post # 25
160 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

If it makes you feel any better, my mother would have reacted the same way your mother did.  I think it’s because it makes it look like your mother is not hosting. 

My invites are worded to show that my parents are hosting and the RSVP is actually my address so ease of keeping up with everything and my parents are fine with that, but would not have been fine with them going to Future Mother-In-Law.

  • This reply was modified 4 years, 11 months ago by  katinlc.
Post # 26
192 posts
Blushing bee

I would have them redone and sent to your parents. They are hosting and should be acknowledged as doing so. I think you and your Fiance will just have to eat the cost of the new invites.

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