Post # 1
If I wasn’t me, I would think this was HER wedding!!! Are you kidding me, every time I speak with her i have just one question, it turns into an hour long conversation about how she can’t give me her guest list with addresses since SHE doesn’t have time, and how am I going to word the invitations since her and my dad are divorced, and her friend wants to throw me a shower with NONE of the people I even know there…and the venue, oh the venue, it’s a barn, why don’t I want a ballroom…oh the dress, the friggin dress is IVORY, God forbid! Oh the officiant, is he baptist?? Oh the entrees why are they dual and not just let the guests pick…please tell me someone else is on the cliff with their mother…please? Oh I forgot….ALL HER FRIENDS ARE INVITED, I DON’T KNOW THEM!!! And we have a small venue!!! I just want to cry….she never shuts up to let me get a word in!!!
Post # 3
No words of wisdom, just *hugs*
Post # 4
awwwww I’m so sorry sweetie *hugs*. Calm down, take a deep breath right now, and repeat to yourself “this is my wedding, and I’m going to make it a happy experience”. Are you the first child/daughter to get married? Is your mother usually quite pushy opinionated? If she’s always been somewhat self centered, you just have to let it roll of your back and not let it bother you. If this is completely out of character, perhaps you should sit down and have a talk with her. Is she afraid of losing you, or losing control, or that without her input the wedding will be a ‘disaster’ and you’ll regret it later on? Is she living vicariously through you because her wedding wasn’t the dream wedding she’s always wanted? If you’re able to sort out why she’s acting this way, at the very least it’ll be easier to handle.
But just remember, at the end of the day, this is YOUR wedding. It’s the day you and youre Fiance will become husband and wife, and no matter what your mother (or anyone else) says, nothing will change that or ruin it for you. Goodluck!! You can do it 🙂
Post # 5
Don’t worry I am in the same boat.
– She keeps harking on us because our guest list is 400+ people, but than keeps adding names of her friends she wants to invite. I finally told her that the guestlist was done & invitations were going out. Well she wanted to see the list 1 more time to make sure all her friends were on there. Than she found out that one couple couldn’t come so she decided that in their place she could add another friend.
– I didn’t want to wear a veil but finally gave in & told her that I would only wear it for the ceremony & take it off for the reception. GASP! How dare i!
– I found these Badgley Mischka shoes that I fell in love with & just had to have. When she saw them she pretty much told me purchasing them was the stupidest thing I have ever done. There was no way I was going to be able to walk in a 3 inch heel. Umm mother….I wear heels to work everyday. I am pretty sure I will be fine….
Her famous last words….”It’s your wedding do what you like & don’t listen to anyone else” Obviously she forgot the EXCEPT ME at the end of that sentence
Post # 6
Thank you ladies! You made me feel much better…MrsDoc, she’s alway been super duper controlling, and I hate to say it, but kinda self centered, it’s all about her. I know it’s our wedding, but she is just bulldozing me and every single thing is an arguement, it’s just exhausting!