(Closed) My mother is going to kill me =( advise please!

posted 4 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll:
  • Post # 31
    Member
    29 posts
    Newbee

    View original reply
    astro102916 :  Astro, don’t feel like you need to post proof. BUT! If you do want to post pics in the future, there’s a row of buttons above the reply box. Click the one that says ‘Basic’ and upload the photo. Simple! 🙂 Hope all goes well with fixing the dress. I think the mix-n-match top option is a good one.

    As for telling mom, redirect her anger at the shoddy seamstress! You don’t have to apologize for wanting a different neckline, and you weren’t the one to ruin the dress.

    Post # 33
    Member
    2692 posts
    Sugar bee

    View original reply
    astro102916 :  Girl, don’t pay that any mind. That was just your “Welcome to The Hive” bee-sting. Loads of good info and conversation here. Don’t be put off.

    Post # 35
    Member
    3866 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2017 - City, State

    Just tell your mom what happened. She’ll feel however she feels about it and then move on. She’s going to be disappointed that the dress was ruined. Even if you were just getting basic alterations, she’d be disappointed if someone screwed it up and ruined for you.

    Side note: Try giving all the relevant details in your opening post so people don’t have to fill in the blanks and you don’t have to get needlessly bent out of shape about it.

    Post # 36
    Member
    29 posts
    Newbee

    View original reply
    astro102916 :  No worries! On my first board I happened to hit a controversial topic (guests wearing white) and everyone flamed me and accused me of being a burn account. It sucks that people have to be accusatory and inflammatory, but remember- a lot of stuff doesn’t translate well through text. 

    Post # 38
    Member
    2502 posts
    Sugar bee

    View original reply
    astro102916 :  The strange thing is the idea that your mom will be pissed at you. YOU didn’t cut up the dress yourself – I would imagine that she would be pissed at the seamstress, not at you. That’s what makes us all think there’s more going on that you’ve not telling us…it just seems like a strange reaction from your mother. 

    Post # 40
    Member
    263 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2018

    View original reply
    astro102916 :  I was just speculating because you stopped responding. I’d hoped you wouldn’t be stupid enough to take your dress to a Craigslist seamstress. I wasn’t accusing you of doing so. I was saying it was a possibility. 

    Post # 43
    Member
    765 posts
    Busy bee

    I’m older than most on here, and though I”m not a mom, I have young nieces. One is just now becoming a teenager and I tease my husband about how he needs to start preparing because before we know it she’ll likely be planning a wedding!

    I have  spoken to my husband about how I’d like to help or get her dress for her when the day comes. If I was the one that bought this dress, but then a seamstress ruined it, I’d want my niece to come to me sooner than later. What would upset me would be the idea that she was going through this but worried about how I would react, I’d want to be there for her while figuring out how to deal with all so I could support her!

    As for how to deal with your mother, I guess the thing to do is just let her know you have bad news, and just tell her what happened. She may get upset and take it out on you out of reaction, but it’s not your fault. Do you have a aunt or someone that can break the news to her? Maybe it would be best of someone else told her about it, let her calm down then you explain to her what happened and how it’s being handled.

    I’m so sorry this happened to you, so not right.

    Post # 44
    Member
    2502 posts
    Sugar bee

    View original reply
    astro102916 :  ok, I get that. For the record, I never thought you were a troll or lying about the dress. It was just a situation of your post leaving some questions unanswered PLUS no pictures PLUS it seemed like you disappeared from the thread that it all added up as “She’s not telling us something”

    like I said before, I’m sure your mom will give you some sort of flack – and will likely feeling very much I Told You So about it. But hopefully she’ll only be truly angry at the seamstress, and not at you (because really, if the dress didn’t have he structure to support the change, the seamstress should have known this and no done it). Tell you mom, and let her know how upset you are. Hopefully she’ll emphasize with you and can help figure out what to do. 

    Post # 45
    Member
    263 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2018

    View original reply
    astro102916 :  I’m really sorry about your dress too. I see your wedding is this October. I hope you get your resume situated in time before the wedding. If you think you’ll have to get a new one I’d get one now so you’ll have time for alterations. 

    Are you suing for the cost of the dress or just alterations? 

    The topic ‘My mother is going to kill me =( advise please!’ is closed to new replies.

    Find Amazing Vendors