(Closed) My mother is going to kill me =( advise please!

• sunnierdaysahead2
• 4 years ago

• Wedding: April 2017

astro102916 :  My mom is a total hard ass, and if a seamstress ruined my dress because I wanted to completely change the integrity of it, I too would be a bit weary of my mom’s reaction.  But whenever I have to tell her bad news (like the time I ran her brand new car into the side of the garage) for me the best way to handle it is like taking off a band-aid….just do it fast.  Explain what happened and be sure to add the part about taking the seamstress to court.  If your mom is anything like mine, she’ll rant and rave for a couple of minutes, then tell you it’s OK and give you a hug.

• MxChinca
• 4 years ago

• Wedding: February 2015

op…  I know you didn’t mean to hurt the dress…

I know many bee’s are into buying other dresses and dress regret.  I will just post my side…  Your mother bought you that dress because she loves you and because you said you wanted it.  $3000 dollars is a lot of money in my book.  I feel instead of buying a different dress you should fix the neckline somehow someway.  I just feel its the right thing to do.  That way your mother may not know anything bad happened to the dress.

• robsbeach
• 4 years ago

• Wedding: January 2016

So, I’ll say this as both a mom and a bride. I would be upset FOR you- not AT you!

I suggested pics right after you posted as I thought Bees with alterations backgrounds could offer suggestions. It sounds, though, like you are moving forward and have things under control. My advice- just tell your mom. “Mom- I loved that you and I shared the dress-buying expreince. That and you buying the dress meant the world to me. And, I feel beyond terrible saying this- especially since you did not want the neckline altered- but the seamstress may have ruined the dress.”

I agree with a bee wo posted before- you may hear about this anytime you don’t want to listen to her advice in the future (sorry!), but again, as a mom, I’d be sad for you and would want to help fix it- I wouldn’t want you to be sad!

• robsbeach
• 4 years ago

• Wedding: January 2016

(and, good luck! I’m crossing my fingers that the dress situation works out for you!)

• hikingbride
• 4 years ago

• Wedding: August 2016

This is a really sucky situation OP! I totally relate to worrying about your mom’s reaction though. There is no doubt in my mind that were I in your shoes my mother would be mad at me (and the seamstress) but yeah she’d be really pissed at me. 

Best thing to do, if the dress can’t be fixed, is to just tell your mother as soon as possible along with your plan to pay for a new dress and pay her back yourself. Unfortunately, if you mom is anything like my mom, there’s not going to be really anything you can do to make her less mad so you will just have to suffer though it. *hugs*

I hope everything works out for you!