(Closed) My mother is stressing me out with 28 days to go. VENT. Super Long.

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

Those centerpieces are going to be fantastic!

“Now as we are getting down to the wire, I guess my mother is more comfortable in expressing her opinion more adamantly.”

Ut-uh…have a feeling this could happen to me, too. Not sure what else you can say to her- you were *very* patient/polite in your response about the centerpieces. I guess if she brings it up again, you say the same thing. 🙂

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I had books on my tables. My mother complained about it until the day of the wedding when she saw it all together. If your mom is anything like mine she can;t visualize it to see what you are going after.

Post # 6
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533 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I really like your centerpieces, and I think they will look great at your location. 

I think maybe your mom is just starting to realize that your wedding is soon…. really soon, so now the panic/anxiety sets in. Aside from waiting it out/ignoring her comments, the only other thing I could suggest is turning it into a drinking game…. a beer everytime she mentions changing the colours, a big shot when she mentions the certerpeices, etc.

Good Luck!!!!

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Roe:  Yeah I showed my mom pics when the books were wrapped and she still didn’t “get it”. OK, I’ll think about it became my favorite phrase with her.

Post # 9
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3583 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I think your centerpieces are lovely.  So much so, in fact, that I am stealing the branch idea for my buffet tables. Now….where to find sycamore branches.  Hmmm.

Keep on keepin’ on. Your mom will understand on the day and she looks around at how adorable it is. I think the PP is right, she’s just starting to panic.  Give her a really difficult job for her to focus on for the remainder of the time leading up.  Can she do favors or something?

 

@StormyRose:  super cute!!

Post # 11
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693 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Well personally, I can’t wait for the recap!! I’m always interested in seeing it all come together!!

I have a feeling I’m going to get alot of “oh, that’s what you’re doing??” comments on my very simple beach wedding. No thanks! No Pay, No Say!!

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@Roe:  ohh, my mom did the same thing before my wedding too!  She stressed me out about our table names and how they wouldn’t ‘fit’ on the tables with the centerpieces.  She absolutely freaked out because she didn’t understand how it would look!  Even once we showed her mock ups she was not sure, but when she saw the final ones she stopped bugging me (though I still think she didn’t like the idea…whatever).

Also she freaked out about having to get ready (ie just put on her dress) at the venue instead of getting dressed at home and driving to the venue with my dad.  Well no one else knows how to lace up my dress mom, and you’ve already told me 80 times that I need to get dressed at the venue, so should I just wait around while you waste an hour driving home from the salon to get changed and go to the venue????

A week before the wedding she freaked and decided she needed sugar-free desserts for my non-diabetic dad (who does restrict his sugar but eats normal dessert all the time!!).  She also insisted that we add in this extra ‘tradition’ to our reception that she had never even heard of until our florist said something to her – again, a week before the wedding.  I fought her at first on both things, but eventually let her have her way just to shut her up – it wasn’t worth fighting over that.

Eventually I just had to tell her that she was stressing me out with the other stuff and causing me more anxiety by freaking out and trying to change my plans, so she stopped and just went with the flow.

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