- 8 years ago
- Wedding: June 2011
Mr. Huneebee and I have been dating for a year now and have been seriously discussing marriage and making plans for our future. My mom seemed all excited that I’ve finally found a guy that treats me well and make me happy. She use to talk about him so much, it made wonder if she was in love with him (just kidding). Now that we have begun to make some progress towards the next step she seems to have lost her connection. Now it seems like she is mourning us instead of celebrating us. Mr. Huneebee have been very vocal to both my parents as well as his that the proposal is near. Since the talks of proposals, me moving away, weddings and etc., it appears that she has begun to distance herself.
Brief background on me and my mom’s relationship: To be quite honest, my mom and I have never really been close. When I was younger I spent a great deal of time with my grandparents. By the time I was around my mom on a consistent basis I was practically a teenager and wasn’t interested in mother/daughter bonding. As a matter of fact she never really made an effort. In recent years we seem to have developed a connection and a better understanding of one another. Still no mother/daughter days at the spa but, we are a work in progress. Usually my mom calls on average once a day and at times I can hear from her two to three times a day! Now days she almost never calls. She never mentions the wedding or ask how the planning is coming along. In the beginning she was eager to offer her help whether it be financially or for some advice. Now nothing.
Usually, Mr. Huneebee asks if I’ve talked to my mom. This morning he asked and I told him that I haven’t talked to her since I visited my family this past Sunday. He brought it to my attention that he noticed that she seemed to have distanced herself from me. How sad is that? It was upsetting, because he feels that he is the reason that she is acting this way. He knew a long time ago that I come from a dysfunctional family. My mom is known for her moodiness but, even I didn’t think she could stoop this low. When I noticed the change, I tried calling and seeing what her deal was. She was very short with me and often times rushed me off the phone. So, I stopped calling. I live almost two hours from my family and don’t go down to visit often but, I do make it a point to go visit. This past Sunday, instead of talking with me, she spent most of her time talking to her friends on the phone. At one point, my sister mentioned the wedding and how excited she is about everything coming together. She asked my mom if she looked at the brochure for the resort and her reply was “I haven’t had a chance.” My dad travels 80% of the time and he has read it cover to cover several times. I’m just not sure how I should be taking all of this. What’s bothering me the most right now is that Mr. Huneebee thinks that the issue is with him. My mom says she loves him to pieces and lights up when she sees him but, her actions towards me says the total opposite. Sorry for the long rant but, I just needed to get that off my chest.
Preparing for your future can be stressful by itself, the last thing you need is a mood swinging diva of a mother. Emotionally I am tired and drained.