(Closed) My mother is trying to control me!

posted 9 years ago in Family
Post # 3
3285 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

how old is your brother??  i am a little confused about the situation.

Post # 4
4567 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Sounds like mom has a case of the Momzilla ‘tude. Maybe she doesn’t like that you’re growing up… have you been super close in the past til your Fiance came along? I’m really sorry she’s acting so horribly! Can you sit down and talk calmly and rationally with her? Maybr with a white board for flowcharts? (Flowcharts always seem to calm people down because they have to think about them). Good luck!

Post # 6
385 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

All I can say is don’t let her pay for it! I hate to tell people that, but it’s my honest opinion. And it seems like you’re lucky because you don’t have much booked yet. I can tell you what I think is going on: she is trying to control you, which seems like a pattern from what you’ve said. Letting her have any financial control will only cause you and your Fiance stress.

If you really need the help or think she will be seriously offended if you tell her you don’t want any contribution, I would suggest telling her that you guys did a budget and realized you don’t need much help, but you’d appreciate if she gave you money for X (X being something like flowers that you don’t mind if she takes the final word). Hopefully that will appease her.

From what you wrote, if you had to basically run away from home to be move out because she was unreasonable, there’s no way you can talk her down from the Momzilla ledge.  On the bright side, you two still talk after all that’s happened, so she may just be able to let go of paying for lots of things.

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