Post # 1
Seriously? I asked her if she knew what it meant. She said demanding and gets her way. I asked her if that is what she really thought of me.
I asked her to explain how I was a bridezilla. She couldn’t.
I tried to explain how I wasn’t.
The BM’s picked their own dresses (which I paid $100 each towards and they were $159 total), they can wear whatever shoes and jewelry they want. I am also paying for their hair and makeup. My mom wanted the girls all in long dresses. I told her it was the girls decision and they could pick whatever dress.
Regarding vendors, yes. I am paying a service and should get what I want. But I’m certainly not mean about it. It is a business and I am a client.
I wanted a smaller, budget friendly wedding. My mom who is paying wanted the all out lavish affiar. What kind of wedding am I having, a lavish affair. I did not want uplights. I did not see the point of spending the money. My mom- “We have to have uplights. I want this wedding to make a statement.”
My mom has also taken over the shower planning for the Maid/Matron of Honor and BMs and needs to put her hands in EVERYTHING. I tried not to get involved and for the most part stayed out of it. My mom wanted it to be a surprise. I told my Maid/Matron of Honor that logisitcally it can’t be a surprise. To appease my mother, my Maid/Matron of Honor asked me if she could just tell me the morning of. I said that was fine. My mom threw a fit how there is no communication between her and the MOH/BMs. WHAT?!?!?
I don’t know why this upset me so greatly. I am really close with my mom. I told her to go home tonight and watch a few episodes of the Bridezilla tv show and let me know if that is still really how she thinks I am…
Ok vent over. Phew….
Post # 3
- Wedding: September 2014 - Manhattan Church Rec Center
Sounds like she’s being a Momzilla
Post # 4
@ajillity81: Your Mom has obviously never met a real bridezilla.
Post # 5
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
It sounds like you may have a momzilla and when you disagree or she doesn’t get her way, she freaks out. See if you can find a momzilla episode to sneak into the episodes you watch together.
Post # 6
@Sapphire-Dreamer: you’re telling me, lol. i’ve been thinking this since the very beginning of planning.
i can’t wait until this is all over. but then it will start (i mean continue) with the baby pressure.
Post # 7
@beachbride1216: good idea. i’ve never watched the show. i’ll have to see if i can find a clip on youtube and tell her to watch it.
Post # 8
@ajillity81: It’s definitely on YouTube
Post # 9
i talked to my Maid/Matron of Honor. we had a good laugh over it.
Post # 10
Sounds like my mom – classic momzilla, who called me a bridezilla every chance she got! Not sure how you can be a bridezilla by yessing your mother to death and not saying a word when you didn’t like something, but apparently I was able to accomplish that!
Try not to take it to heart, it’s not worth trying to prove to her that you aren’t. Most importantly, try not to let it ruin the experience for you. My wedding planning was not a fun process for the most part. Once it’s over you don’t really even care but I would have enjoyed the last year of my life more had planning gone smoother. Honestly, the uplights and other little details you’ll fight with her over aren’t worth the fight and you won’t even notice the day of or really even care the second the wedding is over.
Post # 11
IMO, she’s being a momzilla. My Mom has definitely had her own momzilla moments – so I can empathize!
Post # 12
All I can say is I feel ya. My mom is an event planner. She wants her hands on everything.
Last week I was at hhothouse, about to hop in the truck and leave. We had been taing about accent colors and as says ” You really need to get swatches of those. I really want to get started making my bows.”
I have never said I wanted bows for ANYTHat this this point. I had to kindly remind her this is OUR wedding, hers. We are paying for 75%, she is contributing about 25%….a little here, a little there.
And I feeto like I have to check in with her for EVERYTHNG. It’s embarrassing and fiancé and I love a venue, and when we stand to leave then meeting, I accidentally say ” well I better call my mom before I put a deposit down!” We would never choose an outrageous venue, and without being a bridezilla…..it is OUR wedding. Not hers.
At my sisters wedding, it was small and everyone knew my mom. But if you hadn’t, you would have never known she was the mother of the bride….she was more the event planner!!
I appreciate her help, but wish she would tone it down!
I have no advice,you cannot fix a mothers input on a wedding….they just won’t stop!!
Post # 13
@ajillity81: Eh. Sounds like mom heard a “buzzword” the youngins were using and decided she’d be in-the-know. Definitely sounds like she’s the one being a ‘zilla. I can totally see why you’re hurt but try to brush it off. She’s being a idiot.
Post # 14
Ugh. Annoying. Obviously you aren’t being one. Fiance called me a bridezilla when the RSVP arrived for the invited parents plus their uninvited kids… I kinda freaked out about it, but certainly not to a bridezilla level. But him calling me that made me madder, thus, in his mind, proving his point. lol.
Post # 15
Sorry she is being so difficlut. Just keep smiling — your wedding is about you and your Fiance, so keep your mind there.
Post # 16
She clearly has NO idea what a bridezilla is. Her definition sounds like “If you disagree with me, you’re a bridezilla.”
MOMZILLA IN THE HOUSE.