(Closed) My Mother wants to wear a black dress

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 46
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I doubt anyone will think it is a funeral color. No one wear a black evening gown to a funeral – now if she wanted to wear a black suit with a black hat and black veil that would probably need to be nixed. My mom wore black (for similar reasons to yours and in spite of the fact that she wouldve likely looked even better in color) and everyone thought she looked lovely. No one questioned it. 

Post # 47
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

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carrjc66:  No one will notice. Please let her wear what she thinks looks best.

Post # 48
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

She’s not asking to wear a white or  ivory dress. let her wear black

Post # 49
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Buzzing bee

I think you’re going to be sorely disappointed if you think no one will be wearing black at your wedding.

Post # 50
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Bumble bee

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carrjc66:  Let her wear black and buy her a nice, colorful statement necklace, boom done

Look at Beyonce. She’s not going to a funeral. She’s a sophisticated lady going to a classy event. AND she’s not gonna clash with anyone in navy, since her necklace will match. Badaboom badabing

Post # 51
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

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carrjc66:  My mom was so excited and proud to be mother of the bride. She picked out her own dress and looked absolutely stunning but more importantly, she felt stunning. My mom was so radiant and proud on our wedding day.

I can’t imagine taking away that feeling from her because I had an aversion to the color of her dress.

Let it go and let her pick something she loves.

Post # 52
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

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carrjc66:  I’m pretty sure no one is going to mistake your wedding for a funeral because your mother is wearing black. Nor do I think people will assume she disapproves of the marriage for wearing back.

Its 2015, let her wear what she’s comfortable in. Black is incredibly elegant and I’m not sure why your strong opinionon the matter trumps her comfort and preferences.. She’s an adult.

Strangely enough I wear head to toe black almost every single day and I haven’t been mistaken for a mourner yet.

Post # 53
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I wore black to my own wedding. Oops. Guess I disapproved of the marriage.

 

The very “old-school” rules of color symbolism aren’t really relevant much anymore. Perhaps because we realize they are just colors.

Besides, it always seemed unfair that it’s “disapprovla” for a woman to wear black when nearly all of the men will be in black or gray!

Post # 55
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Bumble bee

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carrjc66:  well, I was being serious and also trying to be funny..

Post # 56
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Buzzing bee

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minniegrace:  LOL, love the meme!

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carrjc66:  OP, I’m not trying to be rude, sarcastic, or nasty. But I don’t think you should worry about people thinking that your mom disapproves of the wedding. I’m sure your mom will be beaming with pride, love and happiness, and that will outshine any color she’s wearing – even black. 🙂

Post # 57
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

I think wearing a black dress should be fine! Personally, I’ve seen many people wear black to weddings, and I never once thought it meant they were unhappy about the wedding or unhappy in general. Sometimes, black is just the best color on people. It’s slimming and classy. I personally own several black dresses that I feel very comfortable and beautiful in.

If it really bothers you, though, try talking to her and maybe find some sort of compromise that would make you both happy.

Post # 58
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

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carrjc66:  is this a cultural thing? Are you not from the U.S.? I’ve worn LBDs to about half the weddings I’ve attended and have always gotten compliments on them. In the US I think white is the only no-no. Maybe it’s because I grew up around NYC where wearing black is practically the uniform, but I definitely don’t associate black with mourning. 

Post # 59
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

I would just let her wear what she wants. Nobody is going to think she disapproves of the marraige if she had a happy attitude.

Post # 60
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

This is a thing with some people?! I hope the brides at all the weddings I’ve worn black to didn’t think I disapproved…

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