Post # 1
Help! I am having trouble deciding if it would be appropriate for me to wear my mother’s 1971 wedding gown for my ceremony and then change into my own gown for the reception? I love my mom’s dress, but more so the feeling of getting married in the same dress that she wore 40 years ago to marry my father! I am having a vintage style wedding so it would definately go with the theme. I just don’t love it as much as the other dresses I’ve tried on and it is a bit restricting, a high lace neck & 3/4 bell sleeves. It does fit me 100% perfect without any alterations, even the length! I had the idea to wear my mom’s dress for our ceremony and then change into my own immediately afterwards…is this okay to do? I also had the thought that maybe I could just display the gown in the reception area since it would go nicely with our vintage theme? I just don’t want to regret anything later and really want the best of both worlds! And it’s definately not suitable to be worn to our backyard rehearsal dinner…too fancy and I don;t have the heart to cut it in any way. Please let me know your thoughts!
Post # 3
Would love to see a picture of the dress. Sounds awesome. If I had the opportunity, I would defintitely wear my mom’s dress down the aisle and then change into my own. Especailly because I am so proud of the example my parents have given me of what a true marriage really is.
And good for you for fitting into your mom’s dress! I feel like people were a lot skinnier 40 years ago 🙂
Post # 4
I recently dug the dress out of an old chest in my parents attic and my mom and I researched how to clean a “yellowed” vintage wedding dress…soaking overnight in oxyclean & dishwasher detergent powder diluted warm water. The solution worked and the dress has minimal markings remaining. It’s a bit wrinkled from the process but I think we can press it with a steamer or warm iron. I will take a couple pictures of it and post them for you to see. Thanks for your advice, I truly appreciate it!
Another question I have…if my “new” dress has a train, do I wear it down for my entrance & them bustle it or just bustle it from the get go and let it’s beauty go to waste?
Post # 5
I think that’s a really good idea to do, very sweet.
I’d have your train down at some point, so everyone can see how pretty it is.
Post # 6
awww… I think this is such a neat thing. I wish I could wear my moms dress.
Definitely post pictures! I’d love to see it!
Post # 7
I was so pleased when I read this post. I’m in exactly the same situation and it’s a relief to hear everyone’s thoughts here and such positive thoughts too! My mother in law had mentioned getting her dress down from the attic, I think mainly so she could see it as it’s been up there 35 years without a viewing. I love vintage stuff and asked if I could see it, it was actually really pretty and she asked if I wanted to try it on. She’s a big lady now and we were both pretty surprised that it pretty much fitted and looked really cute! It sounds identical to the one you mentioned with long bell sleeves and a high neck. Well although she kept saying she won’t be offended if I don’t use it, it got whipped off to a neighbour who’s a seamstress and the sleeves were shortened to above the elbow and neck reduced to a high round neck, and it’s been measured so it can be taken in a bit around the waist. I’m waiting to see the final product and am really excited but also really nervous. I love the dress, love the vintage factor, love the sentimentality factor, think it suits me well, but can’t help feeling maybe I’m missing out on a huge part of the wedding process by not choosing a dress. My mum (she had a simple register office wedding and wore a black dress!) thinks it’s a great idea and from a photo that it really suits me. She suggested buying a separate dress of my choice for the reception like this post is talking about to combat all my worries, and I really like this idea. Considering it very seriously. Have you decided what you’re doing yet kristaot79??
Post # 8
Yes, I have decided…I am wearing my mother’s dress to dance with my father for the father/daughter dance! I think it’s going to be really special and my parents are really excited about it. I only wish I hadn’t told my dad beforehand so I could have surprised him in it! There is something so special and meaningful about incorporating the past into the present and especially when it’s from your family, or new family:)
I decided to wear my own dress for the ceremony, mainly because it describes me better and I thought of my finance and how I think he would like to see me that day. I know the answer to that question is that he’d like to see me in whatever makes me happy! This way I get the best of both worlds… I get to have my own beautiful gown to walk down the aisle, train and all, and then later in the evening I will be quietly slipping away to get into my mom’s gown, with the help of my my sisters, & surprise the majority of our guests with something really special to honor my parents and there vow to each other 40 years ago:) After the cake cutting ceremony, I will slip back into my carefree dress to dance the night away with my new husband!
By The Way…the dress turned out beautiful after my mom & I cleaned it and then she tediously ironed all of the layers & small train. The ironing did wonders and it is so pretty! I promise to take some phots of me in it & post them on here now that it is ready to be worn.
Good luck with your decision and my advice would be to do whatever feels right and makes you feel like “you” and beautiful on your big day! Best wishes!
Post # 12
Finally got some pictures of the dresses up! The first one os me in mom’s dress that I wore for the father daughter dance & the other 2 are of my dress that I wore for the ceremony & most of the reception. I loved them both so much and everyone loved the idea!
Post # 13
That’s so cute 🙂 I love it