- 8 years ago
- Wedding: May 2012
I really need to get this off my chest as my Mum has really hurt me over my wedding. I haven’t bought the subject up with her yet, as I’m quite certain she will retaliate with how she feels hurt, and totally disregard my feelings. (She does this often)
Me and my wonderful Husband got married in May. The wedding wasn’t at all traditional, it was what we wanted, in a venue miles away from home.
I took my Mum for some dinner one evening where she proceeded to tell me, in a restaurant full of people, that my wedding idea was stupid, and that I should provide transport to get her and my brother there. She said she couldn’t afford to come and I should consider everyone else in my plans, and that I was selfish.
She left me dumb struck. We didn’t speak for around a week. I gave in (as I always do) and rang her. I talked her through everything, and even booked and paid for a hotel for her to stay in at our wedding destination. I told her to bring a friend if she wanted (my Father has passed away) and she seemed fine…. for a while.
She then met a man over Christmas, moved him into the house my Dad shared with her within a week, and said she wouldn’t come to the wedding unless ‘the new man’ could come to the wedding in some capacity.
I had to beg her to come to my hen party. She didn’t come to the meal that we went on first, but she continuously called me to asked where I was while I was eating. I told her I’d meet her and her two friends after the dinner.
I sent two of my friends that my Mum has known for years into the bar to get her to join the group, while I chatted with the other party members. She didn’t come out of the bar. She said she had drinks to finish, so we started to walk onto the next place.
My Mum then rang me and had a massive go at me for not going into the bar and waiting for her, so feeling guilty, I had to break the party up. Some came with me to wait for Mum, others went on to another bar, and we met up later.
When I went over to my Mum, she made no attempt at all to talk to the rest of my party. She kept her back to everyone at the bar. She ruined the evening for me.
On my Wedding day, she came to the ceremony with her friend, and then left as her man had parked somewhere expensive. She didn’t tell me she was going, she just went, and didn’t come to the afternoon reception, even though I paid for her and her friend to eat.
I had agreed for the man to come to the evening reception as that was the only way she would attend at all. They showed up an hour or so into the party, stood in the corner for 30 mins and then left.
I have no photographs of just me and my Mum together on my wedding day. The only pics she’s on are just after the ceremony. She’s not on any of the afternoon reception ones because she wasn’t there.
I feel she has really let me down. I don’t really see her anymore because of the new man. We used to do lots together, but she’s not interested now she has a new love in her life.
I really don’t know where to go from here……