(Closed) My name isn't on wedding invitation

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 46
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

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TwilightRarity :  Girl same. Wedding planning is SO stressful I am not going to sweat it. Also another scenario not knowing how to spell someone’s name and just being like….uh and Guest? lol Is it Lindsey Lindsay Lyndsey etc. I would rather write & Guest than spell someone’s name wrong. (Because it happens to me constantly). 

Post # 47
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

Lazy. FI’s family still addresses stuff to us as “FI’s First Name Last Name & letsdothisthing” No last name for me. Annoying. but it’s cuz they are lazy and can’t be bothered to look up my last name (I’m friends w all of them on FB too…).

Post # 48
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

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katie95 :  I agree with PP. I did the same when sending out inivitations especially because I didn’t know who was in a serious relationship and the like but once I got the RSVP’s and was given the additional guests names I gave them individual place cards. Also, I sent out thank you cards acknowledging both of them.

Post # 49
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Honey Beekeeper

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herrera2016 :  You may have made a tentative guest list, but invitations don’t go out until much closer to a wedding.  If someone’s original guest can’t make it, or if they break up between the time the invitations go out and the wedding, the worst thing that will happen is you’ll have to re-do one of the escort cards. 

If you are referring to the need to address Save the Dates, those are not invitations. I’m not a fan  to begin with, but they need not include a  +1 reference in any case. 

Post # 50
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

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weddingmaven :  Yeah, just not something I was willing to bother with on top of a million other things to do. I don’t have the time or energy to focus on such tiny details, to do so would drive me insane. Don’t get me wrong I think having a basic set of manners is important. But I certainly have no desire to keep up with antiquated etiquette rules when maybe 1 person in my entire social circle would even know. The important thing to me was to get the wedding information out for people to know where to be and when. 

Post # 51
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

Poeple are just super lazy. Its like when my cousin mailed me his wedding invite to my dads house. It would have taken them a minute to message me and ask my address but whatever…

Post # 52
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

I made sure to find out the names of everyone’s serious SOs. I think they were likely just being a bit lazy!

Post # 53
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

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katie95 :  This recently happened to me as well – but they did include my name on the place card at the actual wedding. I was annoyed when the invite first came, but by the wedding, didn’t think of it again. 🙂

Post # 54
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

 

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katie95 :  I’m of the belief that it’s either laziness or ignornace, BUT I don’t think you should make a big deal about it. In this day and age, with the popularity of Facebook, Instagram, and other social media platforms, it could have taken the bride about thirty seconds to find your name and add it to the invitation. Adding +1 was clearly just easier for HER to do, so she wasn’t having to consult a name list every time she went to print an envelope. That being said, I still find it lazy. I made sure that ALL of my guests’ +1 were named (unless even THEY didn’t know who their guest was going to be 😉 haha). 

Post # 55
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

It’s definitely lazy. I haven’t met some of my fiance’s friends but I still managed to ask him what their spouses name is so I could put them both on our invites.

Post # 56
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Helper bee

Seriously, you’ve never met either the bride or groom and you are butthurt because they put you as “guest”? Not that big of a deal- don’t take it personally. I also don’t get the whole “laziness” sentiment- the bride and groom have a million things going on, give them a break. 

Post # 57
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2022

I think they probably did it just for speediness. They maybe forgot your name when writing the invite – in fairness they haven’t ever met you!! The important thing is that you were invited. 

My friend told me she made sure not to write +1 on any invite NOT because she felt it was rude but because she didn’t want the partner swapped for a friend or brand new bf if they broke up. 

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