- 5 years ago
- Wedding: December 2004
We are the parents of two sweet girls who are our biological daughters. My husband and I are quite sure that we will adopt two more children in the future because there are so many children who need families and we have enough love in our family to share with more children. Our preference would be to adopt another set of sisters. Our youngest daughter was born with a congenital condition that neccessitated the amputation of one of her legs below the knee. Having already experienced this journey, knowing all the specialists, etc, we would love to adopt a child amputee or who needed an amputation due to limb deformity.
The other day I was talking to my neighbor who asked if we were still considering adoption. I told her that yes we were. As we continued talking, I mentioned that we would love to adopt a child or children with limb conditions similar to our little Leah, because we know how to deal with it and are not scared by this because of our experience with Leah. My neighbor tried to be tactful but said that she thought that was a horrible idea for two reasons. 1. We should not be trying to “collect” amputee children because it is weird to keep getting children with the same “special needs”. 2. Having another amputee child would make Leah feel like she is not special.
It is not our desire to collect anyone. We simply are not afraid to adopt a child who is an amputee or needs an amputation. We feel that amputee children may very well be passed over for adoption because people are nervous and don’t know what to do to take care of them. We do it everyday for Leah and are not fearful. It did get me thinking enough to doubt myself a bit. What do you think? Is it bizarre of us to look specifically for an amputee child or is our neighbor misguided in her advice?