(Closed) My Never-Ending Family Drama :(

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

WTF??????

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

How did he deposit the checks? Weren’t they written to you and your husband??

 

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

@delicious:  +1 … I want to know how he did that  one …. I had to jump thru major hoops to deposit checks in our account before I had my last name added to my ID.

How are you supposed to write thank you notes to people or is your Dad doing that for you too?

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Oh my gosh, how totally gauche, controlling, and repulsive of your father! I can’t believe that behavior! I’m so sorry you have to deal with this– unfortunately I have no advice other than to insist that the $500 from your husband be given to you NOW to help you pay for your new house.

What a nightmare. People really do suck sometimes. I’m not sure if that is legal– and I second PP’s question about how the heck did your father deposit checks that didn’t have his name on them??? Or were all the money gifts in cash? Ugh.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

This is so upsetting. I would feel betrayed. I wonder if he felt upset/like he was owed that money after something that happened at the wedding. It seems odd for your normally happy relationship with your father turned sour so quickly. 

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Sorry….I had to take some time to digest this all.  And read through your previous post.

So let me get this straight.  Your father, who didn’t even condone the marriage, now thinks he’s entitled to the gifts because he ended up paying for the wedding?  How is that even remotely okay with you?

Is this a cultural things?  Otherwise, I simply call it theft.

Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@delicious:  +1, you can actually hold the bank responsible for this.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

@delicious:  +1

Unless he forged your name. Which you could report to the police, since technically he stole from you…

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

First I don’t know how he deposited the checks.  He can’t do it unless it has been endorsed by either you or Darling Husband (depending on wh othe check was made out to)

Second.  It doesn’t matter that he paid for the wedding.  It is your wedding and your gifts.  People gave them to you.  He is not entitled to them.  What he did is steal from you.

It doesn’t matter what has happened in the past.  He does not have a right to just take what he wants. Your dad is being completely ridiculous.

 

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Wait..WHAT?? Those were gifts to YOU and your husband. How does he think that they are his? I’m sorry but if I were you I would go take them. They aren’t his.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@Birdee106:  AND he kept the cards.  Like, HUH?  Those sweet sentiments do not belong to him.  I can’t even….I mean, the f*cking nerve.  He is so incredibly manipulative and a bully.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Yeahhhh…the more I think about this the more irked I am. think about it, if you gave someone a wedding gift and found out that the brides dad took it, wouldn’t you be upset that you spent that money? Not sure the relationship that you and your father have but if I were in your shoes I would probably be calling the police to see what I could do.

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I understand you feel like you don’t want to cause more drama but this is an on-going theft issue.  Your father is stealing from you and your husband.  How would you feel if your husband’s family were leaving you high and dry and your spouse didn’t want to do anything about it for the sake of not causing drama?

I would demand my spouse draw a firm line in the ground and make this stop immediately even if that means drama and involving the police.  Your father is a criminal and letting this behaviour slide for so long is what’s led to this.

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