(Closed) My new last name is constantly mispronounced

posted 3 years ago in Names
Post # 2
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8137 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

goldengardenia :  I have the same issue! It’s been nearly two years and people still butcher it sometimes. It’s really not hard, it’s literally pronounced exactly as it’s spelled – nothing weird about it, no silent letters, etc. People add in an extra syllable sometimes that I have NO idea where that comes from. I’ll admit that it’s a ridiculously silly sounding name so I think people think “oh…that can’t be how they pronounce it let me try and say it less silly.” Ugh. Embrace the silly – that’s what it is lol. 

I have no advice except to continually correct people. They are the ones that end up looking bad after mispronouncing it a million times. 

Post # 3
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Helper bee

 It’s amazing how people can mispronounce the simplest of names, isn’t it?  I can’t really help too much, since I grew up with a last name that 90% of people mispronounce, so it just doesn’t bother me.  My new last name, same problem.  I never correct someone unless they ask me, but I wouldn’t be offended if someone corrected my pronunciation of my last name.  You can correct your coworkers if you want to, but chances are if you have to keep on correcting them, it’s just not something that they give much attention to themselves.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

goldengardenia :  It’s not exactly the same, but my last name used to be a very easy word, also only 4 letters. It’s an actual English word like “Blue”, “Bird”, or “Lamp”. And whenever I’d say it over the phone I’d say the name and then just immediately spell it because I got sick of hearing, “What?” again and again becuase it’s sooooo eeeeasyyyy!

I’m not sure there’s much you can do about it, though. It IS a bummer that even your workplace got it wrong! Sheesh!

PS- my current name I don’t even say, I just spell. It’s longer.

Post # 5
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871 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

My FI’s last name is hard to pronounce to the point he doesn’t even try when making reservations or whatnot, he just spells it.

I am, most likely, not taking his name due to my profession, but it would be another reason not to.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

goldengardenia :  My maiden name is European and 99.9% of people mispronounced it all the time, I guess if you grew up with it it wouldn’t bother you as much…or at least it just didn’t bother me. If I was you I’d just continue correcting them until they got it and move on. I am having a hard time believing that your colleagues (I am assuming mostly fellow teachers?) are having difficulty pronoucing a 4 letter name.

Post # 7
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454 posts
Helper bee

My maiden name is 4 letters, Eastern European, one syllable. Everyone got it wrong, all the time.

You learn to get over it. People come with different backgrounds. Vowels and consonants sound differently in different contexts. I stopped correcting people unless I interacted with them a lot and they really NEEDED to know how to say it. Eventually they’ll get it.

No one will focus on your name as much as you, so unfortunately even if they ask how to pronounce it, people are bound to still get it wrong.

Laugh it off, “Oh, it’s [name], by the way!”

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Eh, it’s not something worth stressing about IMO. I’ve always had a first name that’s apparently confusing to most people and now my new last name is also mispronounced. I don’t let it bother me except, maybe, when the officiant at our wedding mispronounced both my first name at one point in our ceremony and later announced us as “Mr. and Mrs. Mispronounced-last-name.” Not cool, although we laugh about it since she was awful in so many other ways too. It’s always bugged my husband that people mispronounce his last name, and I don’t know what to tell him to help him get over that. I try not to stress about stuff that doesn’t really matter. It’s just another in a long list of minor inconveniences in life.

Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

My maiden name is a Slavic name. No one can spell it nor can they pronounce it. I’ve given up and resigned myself to this fact.

I have no advice other than this will never stop. Here’s to hoping FI’s hispanic name is easier?

Post # 11
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5108 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2014

Our last name is pronounced exactly like it’s spelled but it’s very close to another more common last name (one that a very famous person has) so we constantly get called that last name and I’ve even had that last name written on name tags and on paystubs. It’s like if our last name was “Johnson”, but people constantly wrote and said “Johnston”. They add a letter that’s not supposed to be there. It’s super annoying, but my husband did warn me about it before we got married…

Post # 12
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Blushing bee

Welcome to the club. My name has been misspelled, mispronounced, you name it, they’ve thought of it, for my whole life. It’s an Italian last name that starts with a C and I’ve had people start spelling it “Ka–oh, no? I thought it was Greek!” All you can do is keep correcting people when it happens, and even then, it’ll keep happening no matter what you do when you meet someone else. So correct them, but also let it go. This is unfortunately your life now.

Post # 13
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1188 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

goldengardenia :  I have this problem, but I don’t care.  I’ve legitimately never met one person who said my married name right the first time.  Even some of my closest friends say it wrong!

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper

goldengardenia :  My name is very easy to pronounce, but it spelled wrong all the time.  Such as my name is  Bird, but people want spell it Burd.  Haven’t figured out a way for people to spell it correctly…

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