(Closed) My new last name is constantly mispronounced

posted 3 years ago in Names
Post # 31
254 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015 - Swaneset Bay Resort & Country Club

Saaaaaaame problem here. Husband was born in Eastern Europe and moved to Canada at 7 months old. My married name has Dj in it… twice. And it’s not pronounced with a DJ sound. You just get used to it! 

Post # 32
5886 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

goldengardenia :  I have a difficult name.  Just correct people and give them a cue to help them remember, as you already do.  It’s really not that big of a deal.  People have difficulty remembering names at first, but it’ll become second nature soon enough.

Honestly, as someone with a difficult name, I dno’t really understand why people take it so personally when someone gets it wrong.  My name is not their highest priority and they certainly aren’t TRYING to say it wrong.  Just give them the benefit of the doubt and help them out.  They are probably quite embarassed when they get it wrong!  

Post # 33
828 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I’ll be taking a last name that the ending is spelled with a “ch” but it actually is pronounced like a “ck”. Total disaster hahaha. I’ve already spent my life trying to get people to pronounce and spell my FIRST name correctly. Now I’ll have to do both! -_-

Post # 34
180 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

goldengardenia :  I didn’t read other responses. If it is that important to you, which it appears to be, correct the people who mispronounce it every time. Otherwise, and I don’t mean this in a snarky way, get used to it/get over it. I have a first and last name (kept mine–husband changed his actually) that always always always is mispronounced, and it happens so often that I just roll with it. It’s too much of a hassle to keep correcting (for me), that I truly just let them look like an ass when they realize. I just share looks and smiles with people when a third party mispronounces my name and we giggle over it later. It’s the best when you introduce yourself, and they say “Hi ____” and immediately get it wrong. I just think, sure okay. It’s gonna happen for the rest of my life, so I don’t worry about it ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 35
1863 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2006

I have the same problem! My married name is only 3 letters and people still mess it up constantly!

Post # 37
555 posts
Busy bee

Another Eastern Euro surname here. I have a silent letter at the start and an odd combination of letters in the middle, that seem to have no reason to be there. I’ve simply developed the habit of saying my name and then spelling it out right after. I could have taken Darling Husband simple, unmistakable, abundant-as-sand surname but…y’know…the same as wearing these tight heels today, i like making my life difficult. 

Post # 38
55 posts
Worker bee

goldengardenia :  First name is 4 letter. Been mispronounced my entire life. Happened everytime I answered the phone today. Only person to EVER get it right onow the first try was an English Professor friend of my mom’s and my 9 year old autistic nephew. 

Whatever. I don’t even correct most people. But it’s always fun to correct someone who’s been saying it wrong for WAAAAY  too long when they pissed you off.

Post # 39
1592 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

My FI’s surname is absurdly common (especially in England where he’s from) but is a homophone for two common words in the English language, which are not surnames…yet people still try and spell it wrong. Nobody in my entire life has stuffed up the spelling of my maiden name. I think I’m in for some fun times but still so excited to get rid of my shitty maiden name.

Post # 40
3305 posts
Sugar bee

I’ve had a really ridiculous eastern european surname my whole life. It is 10 letters long and you would never in a million years pronounce it right unless I told you lol. It has way too many consonants and not enough vowels!! The last letters are “YCKYJ” ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‘ I find it amusing that no one can say it lol. I’m actually tempted to keep it…

Post # 41
150 posts
Blushing bee


goldengardenia :  

You do get used to it. I have an english name that no one can spell or pronounce even though it is written as it sounds. I spell it phonetically every time. This sounds annoying, but I will miss it when its gone! I’m marrying in to an easily prounuced one, but I know I will still have to spell it! 

The world is not going to change, they will always pronounce it wrong….unless you move to eastern europe. Sorry! 

Post # 42
757 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

goldengardenia :  Tell me about it! My new last name is French and we don’t live in France. As you probably know in French you write a lot of letters but pronounce words reading about half of them. Oh the horror of how people pronounce and spell my last name! 

Post # 43
938 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

I am the queen of having my name misspelled.  Why?  It is LITERALLY only my immediate family that spells our name differently, as it was misspelled on my grandfather’s birth certificate only.  His two sisters have their last name spelled “correctly,” as does their children and grandchildren… but us?  Nope.  We had to continue the mistake!

Post # 44
245 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2022

I’ve had my first name mispronounced my whole life!! I’ve just given up and let colleagues call me different variations (they all got corrected several times). Unbelievably my name is simply pronounced how it’s spelt! ๐Ÿ˜‚

If you plan on working there for a long time just keep correcting people. The longer you leave it without correcting them then the more awkward it gets!

Post # 45
1903 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

goldengardenia :  My maiden name is one that needs to be spelled out every time I say it. It starts with a Z, and I cant tell you how many times after I say “Z as in Zebra” people say back ok so V-O… You will get used to it. My name once we get married is pretty common, but has a different spelling, so I will be spelling things out all over again!

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