Post # 1
My baby is 6 weeks old. Last weekend Darling Husband had to go out of town on business. My Mother-In-Law and SIL begged to watch my LO overnight so I could go with Darling Husband and we could have a little mini date night. I reluctantly agreed. Boy do I wish I hadn’t!
When we got home we went straight to MILs house to pick up LO. They said everything went great and he was an angel. He seemed his happy normal self so we went home and went on with our week.
Last night Mother-In-Law came over and said she needed to talk to Darling Husband alone. I thought it was weird but let them talk privately. Mother-In-Law left without saying goodbye and Darling Husband had a look on his face so I knew something was up. He said “MIL didnt want to tell you but last weekend SIL let LO sleep with Grace (his 10 year old neice) and when SIL walked in LO was on the floor next to the bed.”
I FLIPPED OUT. First off, WHY DID THEY LET MY NEWBORN SLEEP IN A BED, ALONE, WITH A 10 YEAR OLD. Second off, WHY DIDNT ANYONE TELL ME?!
Thank God LO was okay. I called his ped and told him the story and he said since it’s already been a week and he’s acting normal then he’s fine. Ugh.
I will NEVER let ANY of them watch my LO again!! I just needed a place to vent my frustrations because my Darling Husband seems to think its not that big of a deal.
Post # 2
Vent away. Wow. How did they not see how unsafe the whole situation was??
Post # 3
anon1234bee: wow yeah I would never let them babysit again. Thats so dangerous!!! How could they let a ten year old co sleep with a 6 week old? She apparently slept heavily enough to not notice your baby falling /pushing your baby off the bed since your baby can’t roll over yet. That could have ended very very tragically!!
I would have a really hard time not driving over there and bitching them out. Unreal. I wouldn’t leave my kid with them for 5 minutes after that.
Post # 4
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Madness. You are right to be concerned in this situation. I don’t know how they cannot see why this is such a bad thing?
Post # 5
Holy cow! Doesn’t your SIL know how dangerous it is to sleep with a newborn? Yeah, I would be livid too. Do you think Mother-In-Law knew at the time what was going on? Since SIL let your child sleep with your niece and SIL found the baby on the floor I am wondering how much Mother-In-Law knew while it was all going on.
Now does that excuse her for not telling you last weekend? Absolutely not, but I wonder how much she didn’t have to do with this.
Post # 6
Are you and Darling Husband going to talk to SIL about this?
Post # 7
I am sorry to hear you are going through this. Your baby never should have been put in that situation.
As someone who has babysat many many kids since they were very little, I helped a mom once literally the week she gave birth, this is apalling that your DH’s family would see that as being a safe situation.
Hugs to you and I hope your Darling Husband stands by your decision to not let them watch your child again.
Post # 8
WOW. I’m angry for you. It’s completely unacceptable to let a newborn sleep with a 10 year old. You must address this with your SIL and Mother-In-Law. I wouldn’t let this one go. What did your H say?
Post # 9
It’s pretty disturbing that either of them waited so long to say anything. My trust in them would be broken. Your poor baby…so glad everything is okay.
Post # 10
What kind of moron puts a 6 week old in bed for the night with a 10 year old? Given this exhibition of piss poor judgement, I would never let them be alone with my baby again.
Post # 11
I cannot believe it took them that long to confess. What if your LO had a concussion? That is completely unbelievable. They should have driven straight to the ER, and instead they’re more concerned with getting in trouble than keeping a newborn safe. Disgraceful. I am so sorry.
Post # 12
I hate to ask, but what is LO? Loved One?
Anyway, they made a STUPID decision. That’s why there are CRIBS. Because babies MOVE.
The fact that they didn’t talk to BOTH of you disgusts me. I’d be very hesitant to leave them alone agian… I’m sure they feel terrible, but the decision was poor and handling it was so non confrontationala nd weak I’d be too afraid that if anyhing else went wrong they wouldn’t tell me.
Post # 13
That’s horrible. Make sure the baby is showing no symptoms of silent concussion. Watch the eye movement and crying, but if the doctor has seen the baby and he or she is fine, it will be okay. I’d never let them babysit again. A baby is too precious.
Post # 14
Jesus H Christ are they total morons!! Letting a 6 week old baby sleep in the bed with a ten year old is insane but then to not tell you that your baby had fallen on the floor is plain stupid! To be fair newborns actually bounce fairly well if they fall so falling on the floor isn’t too bad but there are so many much worse things that can happen with what they did! They are so lucky that was all that happened I read a news story just the other day of a baby dying after falling between a bed and a wall when put to sleep in an adult bed. Don’t let them look after your baby again they obviously can’t be trusted. I hope you can build your relationship again but be careful!
Post # 15
What a terrible error in judgment. I would not leave my child alone with them again. And made worse by not telling you and your Darling Husband together.