- 4 days ago
- Wedding: January 2005
I posted a couple of months ago about my niece, my sisters daughter, who nearly died after she had her baby. She nearly bled to death and had to have an emergency hysterectomy to save her life. We took care of her sweet baby while she was in the hospital. Just to recap.
The night she nearly bled to death, he was suppose to be at work, but wasnt. He didnt show up until the next day. His family “supposedly” didnt know where he was while she fighting for her life. When he finally showed up at the hospital a woman dropped him off.
While she was in the hospital we were keeping the baby and he didnt even both to ask how the baby was.
He didnt want her to have the hysterectomy because he wanted a son, since their baby was a girl. If she didnt get the hysterectomy she would have died.
After she was released from the hospital she and he moved home with my sister so that she wouldnt be alone when he went to work. While she was living with her mom, he refused to stay with her. Saying he needed his sleep for work and since her mom was taking care of her he wasnt needed.
So to update:
She developed an extreme hormonal imbalance because of the hysterectomy at such an early age. She went right into post partum blues as well. He started complaining about how he wasnt getting any sleep and started leaving her and the baby and supposedly going to his family’s house to “rest.”
Well it culminated in a huge blow up last week. She was giving the baby a bath and asked him to make a bottle and he blew up at her and started throwing things at her and the baby. He said that it was her baby and it was not his responsibility to take care of the baby since she was the mother. He packed his things and left. Since he left she found out that he lost his job ages ago, its why he wasnt at work the night she was hemorrhaging and my husband went looking for him to get him to the hospital. The woman who ultimately brought him to the hospital is a previous girlfriend whom he has been seeing for months. Apparently, he started seeing his ex again months before the baby was born and after my nieces hysterectomy he just decided that he couldnt be with someone who couldnt give him a boy child.
Anyways, my niece has decided to sell the apartment that my sister bought for them and move back home with her mother. Her mom is on board with it. My niece is really struggling with the hormonal fall out from the hysterectomy. They are trying to regulate her hormones with medication, but she has really struggled and then add in the end of her marriage and the fact that he emptied their bank accounts, she feels its best to move back in with her mom. Of course she is devastated. I feel so badly for her. She is trying to be a great mom with some major challenges.
Right now she is focusing on her health and her baby, but she did tell me yesterday during a video chat that in a few years when she starts dating again she is concerned about the chances of finding a good partner who will be okay dating someone who cant have anymore biological children. I told her thats a down the road thing to think about, right now she just needs to take care of herself and her little girl.