(Closed) My niece's wedding and I've been excluded

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 3
7311 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

If you want to show your good faith and support for your neice’s marriage, then go. If you do not want to show good faith and support, then don’t go.

It’s not normal for Aunts to be invited to the rehearsal dinner, unless they are part of the wedding ceremony, nor is it typical for them to be part of the photography plan. You may be reading more into this than is really there in the first place.

Post # 4
1609 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I am sorry you are hurt, but you have been invited to the wedding.  It sounds like your sister could use your support.  Please go, smile and be there for her.

Post # 5
12068 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

my aunts won’t be in my pictures, if they weren’t coming from out of town they wouldn’t be invited to the rehearsal either, i’m inviting all the out of towners to the rehearsal.

Post # 6
3763 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

We are Not having aunts and uncles at the rehearsal dinner or in any of the formal pictures. Don’t assume its An intentional snub, because it very well may not be. Sorry you are feeling hurt!

Post # 7
1471 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Yeah, I didn’t have aunts at the rehearsal dinner (my FI’s family was generous to host the event, but financially, it was best to cut it off there, or the list would have gone from 30 to 100!) In formal portraits, only one of my aunts ended up in them, and I’m not really sure why she was. I guess I didn’t think it through/notice on the day of. I’d probably have excluded all of them so I didn’t spend hours taking photos!

Post # 8
216 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

We are also not inviting any aunts uncles any onnow his not in the bridal party oparticipating in the ceremony to the rehearsal dinner or pictures. I think you may be reading too much into this. You should go and enjoy the beautiful day and stay away from any drama. If anything goes down just remove yourself from the situation. 

Post # 9
1106 posts
Bumble bee

Oh wow! I am so sorry about the situation you are in! 🙁

I think you should still go – it is a joyous day for your niece!

Post # 10
1966 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@juanita.kelly.9:  this

We’re not having aunts/uncles in pics or at the rehearsal dinner. Both of my sisters were just married & didn’t have them either. I think it’s pretty common. 

Post # 11
13010 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

We did not include anyone but immediate family or bridal party members/their dates at the rehearsal.  I doubt it was an intentional snub, and I think you should be the bigger person and go if you care about your niece’s marriage.

Post # 12
199 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Iloveemma:  You already RSVP’d, I assume.  Not attending would be incredibly rude.  Way more rude than your niece not having her aunt at the rehearsal dinner or photography session, which *is totally normal*, by the way. 

Post # 13
1609 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Just to clarify, I dont think the treatement of the aunt is so unusual, I think the treatement of the mother is, and I think aunt should be there for her sister.

Post # 14
1691 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I also did not invite aunts or uncles to a rehearsal dinner.  They were not in my formal photos.  We had parents, bridal party, sisters, brothers and our grandparents.  I don’t know that I’ve seen pics with aunts or uncles that are formal.  I’m not sure that you’re being snubbed here, as much as it’s a normal thing that you wouldn’t be included in this.  Unless of course you’re in the bridal party.

Post # 15
1181 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Sorry to hear. I think you should go. I don’t think it’s normal to have aunts in the formal pictures although I’m definitely including all of my aunts in mine.

Post # 16
3823 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Iloveemma:  go to the wedding. for whatever reason, the bride feels paranoid about her day going perfectly. chalk it up to her feeling under a lot of stress. don’t take it too personally and just remember, tomorrow is about her and her fiance and not you, your sister, grandma or anyone else. 


just go and support. and by the way, i will not have aunts or my grandmother at my rehearsal. i didn’t have them on my bridal shower list. my mom added them. so it depends on the bride’s preference. i’m sure things will get better after the wedding.

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