Post # 1
As I said, I’ve been invited to the wedding but nothing else, no rehearsal dinner, no picture taking, her mother and I have always been very close. They have had a falling out. And shes invited to the wedding but my niece has asked her brother, to watch after his mom, so she doesn’t cause a scene. Because she thinks I took her my sisters side in this financial disagreement that I must now be watched, as well. The wedding is tomorrow and I just found out my nephew’s gf was invited not hegrandmother or me , her aunt.
Ive really been debating not going to the wedding. I’m not sure i can put on a happy face but my dilemma is, will I my it worse but not going.
I could really use some advice..!!
Post # 3
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
If you want to show your good faith and support for your neice’s marriage, then go. If you do not want to show good faith and support, then don’t go.
It’s not normal for Aunts to be invited to the rehearsal dinner, unless they are part of the wedding ceremony, nor is it typical for them to be part of the photography plan. You may be reading more into this than is really there in the first place.
Post # 4
I am sorry you are hurt, but you have been invited to the wedding. It sounds like your sister could use your support. Please go, smile and be there for her.
Post # 5
my aunts won’t be in my pictures, if they weren’t coming from out of town they wouldn’t be invited to the rehearsal either, i’m inviting all the out of towners to the rehearsal.
Post # 6
We are Not having aunts and uncles at the rehearsal dinner or in any of the formal pictures. Don’t assume its An intentional snub, because it very well may not be. Sorry you are feeling hurt!
Post # 7
Yeah, I didn’t have aunts at the rehearsal dinner (my FI’s family was generous to host the event, but financially, it was best to cut it off there, or the list would have gone from 30 to 100!) In formal portraits, only one of my aunts ended up in them, and I’m not really sure why she was. I guess I didn’t think it through/notice on the day of. I’d probably have excluded all of them so I didn’t spend hours taking photos!
Post # 8
We are also not inviting any aunts uncles any onnow his not in the bridal party oparticipating in the ceremony to the rehearsal dinner or pictures. I think you may be reading too much into this. You should go and enjoy the beautiful day and stay away from any drama. If anything goes down just remove yourself from the situation.
Post # 9
Oh wow! I am so sorry about the situation you are in! 🙁
I think you should still go – it is a joyous day for your niece!
Post # 10
We’re not having aunts/uncles in pics or at the rehearsal dinner. Both of my sisters were just married & didn’t have them either. I think it’s pretty common.
Post # 11
We did not include anyone but immediate family or bridal party members/their dates at the rehearsal. I doubt it was an intentional snub, and I think you should be the bigger person and go if you care about your niece’s marriage.
Post # 12
@Iloveemma: You already RSVP’d, I assume. Not attending would be incredibly rude. Way more rude than your niece not having her aunt at the rehearsal dinner or photography session, which *is totally normal*, by the way.
Post # 13
Just to clarify, I dont think the treatement of the aunt is so unusual, I think the treatement of the mother is, and I think aunt should be there for her sister.
Post # 14
I also did not invite aunts or uncles to a rehearsal dinner. They were not in my formal photos. We had parents, bridal party, sisters, brothers and our grandparents. I don’t know that I’ve seen pics with aunts or uncles that are formal. I’m not sure that you’re being snubbed here, as much as it’s a normal thing that you wouldn’t be included in this. Unless of course you’re in the bridal party.
Post # 15
Sorry to hear. I think you should go. I don’t think it’s normal to have aunts in the formal pictures although I’m definitely including all of my aunts in mine.
Post # 16
@Iloveemma: go to the wedding. for whatever reason, the bride feels paranoid about her day going perfectly. chalk it up to her feeling under a lot of stress. don’t take it too personally and just remember, tomorrow is about her and her fiance and not you, your sister, grandma or anyone else.
just go and support. and by the way, i will not have aunts or my grandmother at my rehearsal. i didn’t have them on my bridal shower list. my mom added them. so it depends on the bride’s preference. i’m sure things will get better after the wedding.