- 7 years ago
- Wedding: September 2011
My wedding is in 4 weeks- and we are at over a 50% decline rate…
I am Indian, and my FH is American. My family is split between the TX and the East Coast, and my soon-to-be husbands family is from Ohio. He has a large immediate family- 6 uncles on each side. My mom only has two siblings, and all of my dad’s family is in India. We are doing a seperate reception in India for that family- but we did invite ALL of our extended family in the US to the wedding, which is A LOT of people.
My venue only holds 250- and our guest list was over 350…so we decided to have an adults only wedding to limit the guests. Well now people on my side of the family are pissed, and we’ve had over 120 people say no– and I’d be lucky if I could get to 140 for the wedding.
Now my parents are upset because they think I offended our family by not allowing children…but I think it’s a combination of travel, back to school time and the no-kids thing.
I am hurt and upset by my family not coming, and feel like they don’t value me. We have flown around to everyone’s weddings in my family and now people aren’t reciprocating. I am also hurt and upset at my parents since they are not defending the decision that my fiance and I made about our wedding.
I am also a little embarressed that I’ve been telling people that we are having a “big wedding” and now I am afraid our reception venue is going to look empty.
I know it only matters that my closest family and friends are there with us– but I also can’t help feeling really slighted by my family.