My Officiant Screwed Up

posted 1 year ago in Ceremony
Post # 16
972 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

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kayla1019 :  what about redoing your vows to each other at a family dinner that you guys hold ? And just have a family member introduce what your doing 


Then u can do them over kinda more enjoyable for u andhubby 

Post # 17
100 posts
Blushing bee

What about having a vow renewal on your 1st anniversary. Either just you and your husband, or with a few relatives/close friends present.

You can’t change the past, but you can plan for the future. If there’s something you can do to help you move on from that situation, then you should go ahead and do it!

Post # 19
1497 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2019

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kayla1019 :  Wait am I missing something why would it hurt your mom’s feelings she wasn’t the one who married the two of you her friend did?

Post # 21
3352 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

Our officiant was drunk. He slurred his way through our reading they we had picked. They were barely recognizable. I was actually trying not to crack up because of the face my husband was making while the officiant screwed up the readings. He kind of made it through the vows–that part was clearer. At the end, he practically fell while walking. We were disappointed, but what can you do? It was certainly memorable.


Post # 22
465 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

Our officiant messed up our paperwork and didn’t file it. We had to meet up with her so she could fix it and then file it ourselves. And that was one of the things we paid for through our elopement company! The company gave us a refund though and we had a lovely wedding otherwise. Having a special day where you go and say your vows again is a great idea. Hopefully you’ll eventually be able to look at the awful officiant as a funny part of your wedding story, but it’s okay that you’re not to that point yet.

Post # 23
103 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: Los Coyotes Country Club

Something similar happened to me. The pastor (also a relative) did all of our counseling. Then at the wedding we had a unity candle, no introduction or explanation. Just an awkward silence. Then he pronounced us Mr & Mrs [wrong name]!!! Last and biggest issue, he wrote the wrong date on my marriage license, the county rejected it. I was so mad, we just went to the courthouse and exchanged vows again to make it official without any hiccups. 

two and a half years later, it doesn’t upset me like it did when it was fresh. It’ll just be another story we tell our kids and grandkids.  I like the idea of saying the vows again. Maybe not wearing your dress and no photographer, just you and your husband committing to each other officially. 

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