- 7 years ago
- Wedding: August 2011
My mother called me one afternoon excited to tell me and she, my sis-n-law, and my two bridemaids were having me a bridal shower.. 🙂 Needless to say i was VERY excited!!! My fiance and I hadn’t really expected a big deal to me made about our engagment..
A couple of weeks later my mom got into a car wreck and was in the hospital for about 5 weeks.. 🙁 Thankfully she is fine and is healing wonderfully.. Needless to say, the shower got put on an expected hold.. which was NOT a problem at all. My sis started then planning by herself and got BM#1 in the mix, but financially they were afraid that they wouldn’t be able to handle it since this would be my only shower so they needed recruits.. My sis asked me if BM#2 would want to help and suggested that i ask her and see. My BM#2 is very pregnant and due in Oct. Her reply to the request for help was that she couldn’t commit to any kind of help in the month of August becuase of her showers..(even though she had nothing planned for the day of mine)… so my sis started to get a little worried. A friend of mine from church had been asking me about throwing a shower so i put her in contact with my sis and BM#1. It was a great trio..
In the mean time.. a lady from my work, “J”, knew my mother had been in the hospital and asked if she and another lady could throw me a shower one evening after work and invite some ladies from my office. She was hoping that this would relieve some stress on the other ladies and she very much wanted to help with something. One day “J” was discussing the shower plans with a few people from the office. Soon afterwards my supervisor received a complaint (from my pg BM#2) and “J” was told to not do the shower because it might hurt the feelings of others in the office. It turned out that the only person who got hurt over it was me.. but oh well..
Anyway… so “J” still wanted to help with my bridal shower to I put her in contact with my sis, BM#1, and my friend from church.. They then became the 4 musketeers..lol.. They had never eveb met before and planned the entire shower by phone, text, and email… things were looking up.. the fiance and myself went and registered and plans were coming together. 65 invitations were sent out in the mail… but no one recieved them.. you heard me right.. NO ONE got the invitations.. When the planners figured out that the invitations never got delivered.. they started calling people.. it was still a week before the shower so at least people had a little bit of time to plan…
They day of the shower… I was really excited.. I’m not used to being the center of attention and I wasn’t sure how i was going to deal with all of these people sitting and staring at me..lol.. If I was going to be their only source of entertainment then I was afraid that they were going to be sadly disappointed..lol. I got up that morning feeling pretty awesome, got dressed in a VERY cute dress from my sis, took the time to straighten my extremely long hair, put on my heels, and went and picked up my momma.. things were going as planned. Got to moms and things started to dwindle slightly when we couldn’t figure out how to fold her wheelchair to get it in my trunk.. :(.. FINALLY got it folded, got her in the passenger seat and was on our way to my big Shower Day!!! I was so excited!!! We got to fellowship hall early, walked in and things looked beautiful!!!!! The decorations were awesome, the food looked wonderful and everything was perfect.. 🙂 My four musketeers were working away finishing things up and I just felt so blessed that they took time out of thier busy schedules to do something so special for me… I felt like a princess.. one of my very close friends from work “K” showed up shortly after i got there.. 🙂 and then we anxiously waited for the others to show up so we could dig into the food.. we waited and waited.. i sent a txt to BM#2 and asked if she was going to be able to make it.. but she never responded… and she never showed
no one else came…
The four ladies who worked so long and hard coordinating with each other were there, my mom, my grandmother and my friend “K”… that was it… I felt so bad for my fearless four.. all that fuss over me for nothing.. I was so embarassed.. and I am still struggling with it all.. feeling like you have no family support really sucks.. the next day at church, ladies were coming from all over telling me they had no clue we were having it and assuring me that they would have been there if they had known..
it really hurt that my family nor BM#2 bothered to come at all…. and we still cant figure out why none of the invitations got delivered.. there is some speculation that they never got mailed..but who knows… I would hate to think that someone would have just NOT sent them on purpose…
Sorry this was so long bees.. i just really needed to vent.. 🙂